Promises to My Husband on Our 4th Anniversary

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today marks my 4th year of married life aka officially wifestylin’!


i am a bit freaked out at how quickly it’s gone by but am mainly impressed with how our love has evolved since september 3, 2010.

chelsea and ryan avery wedding anniversaryi feel as though my husband looks incredibly young but i look pretty much the same except with more grey hairs. i suppose that’s what starting a business does to you?


if you’ve been reading for a while, then you may remember how last year my hubs closed down a store for me to privately shop around (and it’s probably not the store you’d imagine). he is an impressive man.


each year on our anniversary, i agree to relinquish some of my obsessive need to plan out everything because my husband loooves surprises so i have no idea what he has in store on this fine wednesday. all i know is that i have to be done with my work by 2:30pm and i need to be hungry. easy enough.


thinking back to 4 years ago, no way did i picture that we would just be returning from thailand (i still have a post or two up my sleeve about our recent travels), or that we’d have a world championship under our belt that lead to starting a business together or most astonishing to me is that we would have a dog (truly).


what i did picture involved me still being happily married and most importantly having fun with my husband.

chelsea and ryan laughin

he’s the man that makes me laugh, and laughs the hardest at my wise cracks.


he’s the man that loves me truly, even with all of my flaws.


he’s the man that still opens car doors for me and tells me he thinks i’m sexy but my mind is even sexier.


he’s the man that gives me the best bite of his cookie or PB&J sandwich, because even though those are his favorites, it brings him greater pleasure to share them with me (he’s more selfless than me).


he’s the man who shares his full self with me and gives room for us to grow together and individually.


he’s the man i choose to spend forever with and a choice we make every day we wake up.


that being said, we have our fair share of tough days and hard decisions, but we made a commitment to one another that our marriage is both of our priorities.


of course marriage is not all butterflies and lollipops because let’s face it, even butterflies get annoying and no one likes the blue lollipop all the time. on the flip side, i don’t think marriage should be expressed as “game over” or “ball and chain” either because when it comes down to it, the happiness and love you feel in your marriage is directly linked the both of you.

chelsea and ryan seal the deal

it’s been fun to relive our love story and something that brings a smile to both of our faces to think back on our past, appreciate our present and plan our future together.

in case you missed it, here’s some top posts on our story:
*how we met

*when he basically proposed on the first date

*the first 7 months of our relationship spent apart

*taking my parents to chili’s for their blessing

*popping the question and taking my car


so happy anniversary to you today mr. avery and here are my promises to you:

chelsea and ryan avery up close

i promise to put my best self forward and appreciate in advance your patience when that self is hard to find.


i promise to continue to share my thoughts, love and respect with you.


i promise to strive for a life of meaning with you.


i promise to continue to stretch myself and grow into my fuller capabilities as a human.


i promise to be a woman and wife you are proud to have by your side.


i promise to try not to make you laugh when you are drinking milk, because that stuff burns coming out of the nose.


ps. he surprised me with a post of his own this today about what it’s liked to be married to ‘the new wifestyle’


  1. Beki

    September 3, 2014 at 11:04 am

    I ALWAYS like the blue lollipop.

    • chelsea

      September 4, 2014 at 3:29 pm

      you liiiiiiie beki! but good to know i can pawn off my blue one to you and watch your teeth turn funny colors.

  2. Christina

    September 3, 2014 at 11:39 am

    Beautiful post, Chelsea. It’s amazing how much you’ve accomplished together in four years of marriage. And it’s encouraging to me (someone who is newly married) to think that there are so many crazy adventures my husband and I are bound to have in the years to come that we can’t foresee.
    Christina recently posted…#ootd [live on the green]

    • chelsea

      September 4, 2014 at 3:31 pm

      thanks for reading and your comment christina! we were talking about how we also have no idea where we will be, what we will be doing or really anything in another 4 years. i’m trying to view that as fun and exciting and not terrifying 🙂 you and your hubs are going to have many amazing adventures and i can’t wait to hear about them!
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  3. Lindsay @ The Newlywed Notebook

    September 4, 2014 at 9:42 am

    Beautiful!! Happy anniversary to both of you!!

    • chelsea

      September 4, 2014 at 3:32 pm

      thanks so much lindsay!!

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  5. Brittany

    September 5, 2014 at 7:19 am

    Girl, I’ve been reading your blog for a few months now and I just have to say my favorite part about your writing is that its not about God. Or Christianity. Or any religion for that matter. You’re not constantly talking about how your faith makes you a good wife. I REALLY appreciate that in this world that seems to be so saturated with bloggers attributing their successes in life to God and Faith that you’re willing to leave that out of the picture and talk about YOU and your HUSBAND. Its SO refreshing and for that reason, among others, I continue to come here to read your sage advice and crazy capital-letter-free ramblings regularly.

    Thank you, and congrats on four years of marriage!
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    • chelsea

      September 5, 2014 at 10:35 am

      brittany-can we just skip over everything and be bffs!? thank you SO much for this comment, i really appreciate it and a lot more than you may know. the blog world is thick with religious blogs (like you said) about how you can only be a good wife through religion and while there is nothing wrong with that, it’s not something that is part of my relationship and marriage.

      i wanted to create a space (with updates coming soon) so that hopefully this can be a community for women who don’t necessarily directly identify with having god at the center of their relationship (and for those that still do- too!)

      so thank you for this comment, for reading even without my capitalization and can’t wait to check out your blog 🙂

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