The NEW New Wifestyle!

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first…a quote about change:

“there is nothing permanent except change.” -heraclitus

“change is stressful but at least you get cookies!” -chelsea avery (more on that at the bottom)

as you can see, there are some changes ’round these parts! does change stress you out or excite you or a bit of both?

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here’s how i sometimes feel about change: it makes me nervous, it makes me question everything myself, it makes it hard to breath sometimes, it can be exhilarating and grand and it’s also a blasted inevitable thing. oh changes, you rascal.

so as to not overwhelm you, i will leave this peaceful picture right here for you. that was from our time almost a year ago in hawaii…mmm mai tai’s, sand and tan lines….yes please! fine, the picture is actually for me and i may or may not be sitting here in my bikini hoping to will myself into the picture.

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tomorrow i will call attention to the bigger changes (besides layout because…well…you can see that now). poke around, let me know what you think and know that i am still working out some kinks and formatting so it reads best for you!

the biggest thing i’ve become clear on is that ‘the new wifestyle’ is about empowering women and their relationships. it’s about making our own choices and not adhering to outdated expectations of women or wives.

to celebrate the changes, i figured i should reward you with the chance to win a $25 gift card to amazon! my recommendations would be to buy your pet a halloween costume, buy a few books, try to find those jellies from the 1990s or check out the shop page for more ideas!

here’s how you can enter:

a Rafflecopter giveaway

of course, a massive shoutout to my technically savvy husband who stayed up until the wee hours of the morning helping me update the website! he even picked me up a plethora of cookies on his way home to keep us going. he’s the best. see, changes=cookies! it’s basically science.

IMG_0808happy october and welcome to the new new wifestyle!

1) did you see i have a fancy newsletter coming AND my first e-book out? did you get it!?
2) how do you feel about change? do you embrace it or does it take some time?
3) since it’s october, what is your favorite thing about fall?


  1. Ryan Avery

    October 1, 2014 at 7:26 am

    I am SO proud of all the work you are doing to help empower women and their relationships! I wanted to be the first one to comment on the NEW new wifestyle 🙂 Here is to the next adventure in blogging and building a community you believe in!

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 9:34 am

      aw shucks thank you boo! i so appreciate all of your help, support and encouragement! let’s celebrate!!!!! 🙂

  2. Jess Stockton

    October 1, 2014 at 7:53 am

    The new format looks great!

  3. Amanda Wood

    October 1, 2014 at 7:56 am

    I am loving the new layout! So professional! The colors are great together too. I’m excited to hear about the rest of the changes as well!
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    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 9:35 am

      thanks so much amanda! appreciate you saying that 🙂

  4. Rose Beeson

    October 1, 2014 at 8:14 am

    I love change right now. It has been great for my soul. Embrace it because you will be great.
    Rose Beeson recently posted…I Need To Go On a Diet Because YOU Can’t be Thinner Than Me.”

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 9:36 am

      so happy to hear change is good for your soul, especially right now rose! i’m slowing coming around to embracing it so it doesn’t overly embrace me.

  5. Ashley @ Saving Money in your Twenties

    October 1, 2014 at 11:07 am

    LOVE the layout! and the header– that font (both of them) are super cute! send me some of your design skillz, please. I like the top bar how it scrolls with the page– very cool! I will sign up for your newsletter ASAP! YAY congrats for change!!

    ps gahhhh you two are disgustingly cute, i love ryan’s comment at the top 🙂
    Ashley @ Saving Money in your Twenties recently posted…Redefine Your “Normal”

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:29 am

      yay i’m glad you like it ashley! i have zero design skills so unfortunately i can send you none! i actually used 99designs (which was very overwhelming with all the options) but found what i loved!

      he sure is a pretty sweet guy and it’s weird…you’re not the first person to call us disgusting 🙂

  6. Pebby Garner

    October 1, 2014 at 11:23 am

    Although, I am not married now, I read everything that I can in regards to relationships because the information is helpful for every kind of relationship. And it does get me ready for a romantic relationship if one does come into my life. Change for me is sometimes difficult but then I get in a rut and get restless. It’s usually the first step that is difficult. Once I take that step, then it’s exciting. The best thing I like about fall is the cooler temperatures. Since I live in Texas, we only have 2 seasons…hot and not so hot. I like having my windows open for fresh air. As the temperatures drop, I also like the crisp air that comes with the Indian summer. Cool in the mornings and warm in the afternoons. I would love it if I could live somewhere with the temperatures in the low 50’s for the lows and then the low 80’s for the highs. I love your blogs because you are so real and honest in them and you don’t sugarcoat the bad things. I look forward to reading more.

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:32 am

      i am SO glad you still read and take insight into your other relationships, pebby! that makes me really happy to hear 🙂 agreed that once you take that first step (even when it’s super hard) the excitement soon follows. ha! so true about TX-we lived there for a few months last year and that hot is SO hot. you are a strong woman for putting up with that!

      thankful to have you as a reader/commenter pebby! i shall continue to write real and honest posts about our relationship.

  7. Jen

    October 1, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    Love your blog, especially now that Joey and I are married! Definitely find myself applying many of your stories, blog posts, and situations to my own life. 🙂

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:33 am

      heeeeyo! welcome officially to ‘the new WIFEstyle’ jen!! congratulations to you and joey! glad that you can relate to our stories-being in a relationship is certainly an adventure!

  8. Brittany

    October 1, 2014 at 2:04 pm

    1) Yay Newsletter!
    2) I sort of love change. I like freshness and newness! And I LOVE the new site! Congratulations!
    3) Favorite thing about Fall: Squash! I’ve overdone the fall squash thing already I think. Kabocha, Butternut, Delicata, they’ve all been purchased already and it’s only October 1st. Just too good.

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:34 am

      hooray! glad you signed up and let me know what you think of the e-book! i’m glad you’re liking the new site, brittany! still playing around with a few things but overall i’m happy with it! i shall channel your energy of loving change because when you describe it as freshness and newness that sounds much more bearable!

      also…i had no idea those other squashes besides butternut (and spaghetti) existed. teach me your ways!

  9. Paula Howley

    October 1, 2014 at 3:18 pm

    1. I did and I did.
    2. change? what’s change? You mean like 50 cents? Oh I love it and I hate it but you gotta deal with it like it or not.
    3. I like the fashions of fall. I love being out there in the crisp mornings lookin’ all cool. I like starting over- it’s like New year’s because school’s starting again. I like thinking about the goals of the year- my speaking, my career, my home schooling.
    I like it all but I want the green chevron back. The grey sides are very grey.
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    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:36 am

      let me know what you think about the 7 actions, paula! thanks for signing up 🙂

      it’s true about change-have to deal with either way! i’m still playing around with backgrounds but will throw some chevron on there and see if it gets too busy or not and keep playing! thanks for letting me know 🙂

      mmm crisp (rain-free) mornings are my favorite. sounds like some good goals for the upcoming school year for you too!

  10. Alison

    October 1, 2014 at 4:36 pm


    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:37 am

      hooray! glad you like it alison! thanks for your creative advice late into the night before it launched 🙂

  11. Jess May

    October 1, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    I love change, mostly after I’ve calmed down from the shock! Your new layout is gorgeous and I really dig it. Nice move!
    Jess May recently posted…Ten Grungy Sex Songs To Rough It Up A Little…

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:38 am

      glad you’re liking the new lay out jess-thank you! excellent point that coming down from the shock allows us to embrace change a whole lot easier.

  12. Carolyn

    October 1, 2014 at 8:43 pm


    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:38 am

      thank you carolyn!

  13. Lindsay @ The Newlywed Notebook

    October 2, 2014 at 8:21 am

    You look so professional now, I love it! 😉 And I adore your color palette! Change can be so tough and scary but I think you embraced it really well! xo
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    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 10:39 am

      oh just putting on my fancy clothes over here now, lindsay 🙂 i’m glad you like the color palette-big compliment coming from mrs. design guru!

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  15. Donni

    October 2, 2014 at 10:49 am

    Congratulations on the new design. I like it! I think the newsletter is in my inbox, but I have not read it yet. I’m sure it will be fab 🙂

    I like change – when I can control it. LoL! In all seriousness, I can be apprehensive of change but I also embrace it (gingerly). It’s funny, as I get older, I am not as crazy about change as I was in my youth.

    My favorite thing about fall is taking walks in crisp, cool air and pumpkin pie 🙂

    • chelsea

      October 2, 2014 at 5:13 pm

      thanks so much donni! glad you signed up for the newsletter-you should have received some confirmation emails about 🙂 funny how we change about change, isn’t it!

      now i need pumpkin pie-YUM!

  16. Natalie

    October 4, 2014 at 5:02 pm

    I love change! Well I love thinking and dreaming about change, but when it begins I fear it.

    An e book! Exciting!

    • chelsea

      October 5, 2014 at 3:50 pm

      i will be channeling your energy too, natalie! glad you have such a positive outlook on change, even if the fear sets in when it actually begins 🙂 let me know what you think of the e-book 🙂