Ben Folds + Oregon Symphony = Reminder to Blaze Your Own Trail!

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i had a real life weekend this past weekend and it was amazing. when you start your own company (and are also working on some big, exciting changes for this here website), it is not uncommon for my husband and i to forget what day it is and work through the weekend.


not this time, bucko! we had our bff couple friends over on friday night and played a gripping game of catch phrase on our balcony. all i can say is girls rule and boys drool and alison and i speak the same language.  it should also be noted that we both drank 2 gin & ginger ales while the boys drank water. that’s how good we are. as for the writing on the window…my husband sometimes likes to reenact ‘a beautiful mind‘ and writes on any transparent surface he finds…including the window outside.

ben folds friendscatch phrase totally and completely stresses me out but i decided it’s good for me. you play by being on teams and a little computerized thing pops up a word or a phrase and you have to explain it to your partner so they guess it. kind of like charades except you can use words and not gestures. there is also a horrid beeping sound that speeds up and gets louder as the time passes which instantly causes my heart to race and palms to get sweaty. i’ve decided this is good practice for dealing with anxiety.


i suppose on saturday we both worked some but not too crazy because i had to get ready for a concert.

my friend beki invited me to see ben folds perform with the oregon symphony!


ben folds portland oregon symphonyso amazing sounding, right?! i texted her what i should be wearing because the last time i went to the symphony was in about 5th grade and i was forced to wear tights and a dress. she suggested i wear gloves and monocle.


i asked my husband for clothing suggestions (he is WAY more fashionable than i am) since a typical ben folds concert would be all rocker/alternative but he this time he was playing with the fancy symphony. 


my husband said “oh my goodness, have you lost your ‘cool’ factor because you don’t know what to wear to a concert?! you are the cool one in our marriage with your tattoos and piercings so find something cool!”


i opted for a green skirt and white tank top. he said i looked more on the scale of “pretty” than “cool” but i did what i could.


i’d never been inside the arlene schnitzer concert hall in portland, oregon and it was spectacular. look at that massive symphony as his back up band!

ben folds portland oregon symphony stagebeki neglected to tell me that our seats would be in the third row and we could see his eyebrow hairs (that’s pretty close).

ben folds portland oregon upclose

i was highly impressed with the whole show and it made me wonder just where i would have ended up if i stuck with playing the viola. i would have probably ended up wearing a lot more buns in my hair and being nicer and possibly a groupie. oh well…that ship sailed.


at one point someone yelled “rock this bitch” which wasn’t someone heckling him but instead the cue for him to make up a song on the spot. please no one every make me make up anything on the spot-the presssssure! apparently someone yelled this out during a live recording of a CD at one of his shows many years ago and this is what you yell at his concerts and he then he creates music right on the spot. crazy, right?!


we proceeded to watch him play certain notes on the piano and the ask different sections of the symphony to emulate it. it was incredible for him to know the sounds of so many instruments (flutes, cello, violin, viola, vocals, trumpets, bassoon, ect.) and play around with different notes and sounds that he wanted them to play. after about 7-10 minutes of getting each section to sound like he wanted, he put it all together and then made up lyrics about the brace on his hand.


for your viewing pleasure:

he’s hilarious and talented and i want to make him a meal in a crock pot (that’s my new found talent).


i was reminded how important music is in my life. i used to go to concerts at least once or twice a month in high school with my friends and music can have heavy influence on my mood. it was a good reminder because my hubs isn’t that much into music but i am and it’s important to me. i’m a big believer in not having to have every interest the same as your spouse so i need more music in my life. thank you for this beki!


ben folds also reminded me that you don’t have to do things the way others do. in fact, you probably have an insanely amazing idea but you might be afraid to try it out because it’s not been done before. do it. try it. figure it out and be real. thanks for the reality check, sir.


i woke up yesterday still in the happy mood that concerts leave you with if you love music and proceeded to stroll around a very portland neighborhood with alison. we ran into the most vulgar graffiti i’ve seen lately:

ben folds portland or dog fart

i know. portlandia is real and it’s an epidemic.


happy monday! quick reminder to live life, blaze your own damn trails and find the funny…


1) what’s an interest you have that your significant other does not?
2) last concert you went to?
3) last time you went to a symphony?


  1. Paula Howley

    September 22, 2014 at 9:21 am

    Can I just say I LOVE Ben Folds and I used to use his songs on stage in my former life. Yes, I’m THAT cool.
    1. Hmm. Well, board games. I love them and he couldn’t care less. I wish he would join Toastmasters too.
    2. Well, the fact that I had to think about this for so long was very sad. It has been about 14 months since I went to a concert. Problem is all the concerts are in Vancouver and the ferry doesn’t run late so it always means an overnight which instantly doubles the price of the trip because of food and hotel so we usually only go once a year. Anyway, you should check this guy out-Ben Caplan and the Casual Smokers- you’d love him- he is amazing- no, he’s not amazing, he’s a force of nature. You might cry at how good he is.
    3. Last symphony was easier- the beginning of the summer. I still had to take a ferry but the other way to Powell River. They gave a free concert at the amphitheatre- it was a youth symphony- nobody over 25. I took my daughter to it and gave me goosebumps!!! Meg loved it too. I really can’t help how cool I am, it just happens. Don’t hate me.
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    • chelsea

      September 22, 2014 at 9:58 pm

      wow paula you really are THAT COOL! honestly…that’s pretty amazing. darn that hubs of his lack of board game enthusiasm! maybe you could do a bet with your husband like i had with mine about joining toastmasters if you win some public speaking contest 🙂 got me in!

      yeah that’s kind of a bummer that vancouver is tricky to get to because those expenses would add up but i bet you get some killer bands and people there!

      ben caplan…you know i love forces of nature! that beard is impressive and i’m trying on glasses next week that look like his. ha! excited to hear more.

      do you take like a cool pill or is there some course i should sign up for to be such a cool lady like yourself 🙂 (but for real)

      • Paula Howley

        September 24, 2014 at 9:21 am

        Chelsea, you’re already there. Either ya got it or ya don’t. and you got it.
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        • chelsea

          September 24, 2014 at 5:20 pm

          haha thanks paula!

  2. Christina

    September 24, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    Much like Paula I, too, love Ben Folds. My piano teacher burned me a copy of “Rockin’ the Suburbs” when I was a freshman in high school. She was like, “I warn you, there’s a lot of swearing in this album.” Is it wrong to blame Ben Folds for my frequent use of profanity to this day? I don’t think so.

    Loved the video. This show must have been a really exciting and unique musical experience! I missed out on going when he performed with the Nashville symphony earlier this year.

    1. Pretty much everything! We just have fun hanging out and being silly. Otherwise, we really enjoy pursuing our own interests.
    2. Capital Cities at the end of August. I got us VIP tickets so we had our own special standing room area. It turned into giant dance party. It was a lot of fun!
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    • chelsea

      September 24, 2014 at 5:25 pm

      haha what an amazing piano teacher you had that burned you a copy of ‘rockin’ the suburbs’ (i was bummed he didn’t play that song). shit no it’s not wrong to blame ben folds for your frequent use of swearing 🙂

      it was SUCH a cool experience and if he comes back-you must go!

      glad to hear you both are pursuing your own interests a chunk of the time too. that is way too cool that you scored VIP tickets to capital cities AND started a giant dance party. well done!

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