10 Love/Hate Things About Being on the Road

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i am currently sitting in Delaware (i don’t think i’ve actually met anyone from Delaware until i walked into the hotel here) and after a long time in the car from the drive from Rhode Island….i had some time to reflect on my sometimes overwhelming situation. we’ve been on the road now for 19 days-although it truly feels like 39.

i had to include a few pictures of our great time in Newport. did the feature picture of me yawning make you yawn too? because i yawned again looking at it.

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us in Newport, RI

here is what i find challenging about being on the road:

1) not having a place to come home to (in these 19 days we’ve stayed 12 different places)
2) lacking in alone time
3) living out of a suitcase
4) not eating as healthy or as fresh as i’m used to or would like to be
5) being trapped in a car while PMSing-yes it’s a verb for me
6) balancing being a wife and a business partner
7) always feeling a low level of anxiety (more on that update coming soon)
8) not sleeping well and waking up not knowing what city i’m in
9) having to constantly create your own motivation and work to-do list
10) the unknown

here is what i’m loving about the experience:

1) seeing parts of this country i’ve never been to before
2) how my marriage is evolving
3) getting to work with my husband
4) meeting new and interesting people
5) eating the local foods and traditions of the places we visit
6) visiting friends that i haven’t seen in forever
7) proving to myself that i’m stronger than i often believe i am
8) not having to clean
9) the opportunity to create our own destiny and be my own boss
10) the unknown

so i will take a deep breath and focus on all the great things i get to experience and remind myself this is most likely a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

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sunset over Newport, RI

the new wifestyle: sometimes when you get overwhelmed by where you are at right now, take a moment to list out both the negatives and positive of your situation.

1) last time you made a pro/con list for something in your life? 
2) what do you do when you get overwhelmed?
3) tell me something happy about your life right now!


  1. debra

    October 11, 2013 at 1:25 pm

    1) It’s been years since I made that kind of a list, but it is a grand idea.
    2) Freak out usually. Not recommended.
    3) Happy in my life…..my family, my grandchildren, my friends, my job. I wouldn’t trade a thing.
    (by the way…..gorgeous sunset picture!)

    • chelsea @ the new wifestyle

      October 11, 2013 at 3:27 pm

      haha must run in the family 🙂 so happy to hear your happies in your life-makes me smile. thanks for sharing debra! and thanks-it was one of the prettiest sunsets i’ve seen!

  2. Paula Howley

    October 11, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    Oh Chels, I totally feel for you. In my old life I was on the road constantly and it’s tough not being at home. I thnk the longest stretch I was on the road for was about 4 months. in the middle of winter in Central freezing Canada. although at least i was in a new city for a week at a time so I could make my hotel rooms feel more like home with the extra time.
    Continuing to keep you in prayers and sending good vibes. It sounds like you are doing a helluva job. I’m SO proud of you. KILLER sunset picture btw. Amazingly beautiful.
    1. Used to make pro-con lists a lot but haven’t in years. Mostly they were for staying with or leaving men. lol
    2. I shout. and then I eat. If I’m having a good day, I take a deep breath,.pray and have a good cry.
    3. Happy: husband and I are making efforts to put more into each other. Meg is flying through Math- this makes me happy because I sucked at it. I am always telling her that she’s a natural mathematician. happy because I have a home and a family who loves me. Happy because Head Start is off to a great staerrt. happy because I am blessed all over my life. Happy because I am loved.

    • chelsea

      October 12, 2013 at 9:53 am

      thanks for your comment paula-i always appreciate your thoughts and support! that sunset was one of the prettiest ones i think i’ve ever seen…i could have stared at it for hours (or the full 25 minutes before it went away).

      ha that your lists used to be about staying or leaving men! they work for everything. we sound similar in our ways of coping with overwhelming things. i’m currently eating a bag of chips. love love love all your happies! glad you and the husband are making efforts to put more into each other and that you have a brilliant daughter 🙂

  3. Paula Howley

    October 11, 2013 at 11:29 pm

    I adore that cardigan btw! so colorful!

    • chelsea

      October 12, 2013 at 9:54 am

      thank you! it’s my favorite fall one from target 🙂

  4. olivetorun

    October 12, 2013 at 6:47 am

    I don’t have to travel at all for my job (I’m a teacher) but I use to think it was something I wanted to do. I feel like many of your challenges listed would be mine as well.

    • chelsea

      October 12, 2013 at 9:57 am

      thanks for your comment and that’s fabulous you are a teacher-i miss working with kids! and yes it’s a challenge but happy to hear i’m not alone.

  5. Katie

    October 12, 2013 at 2:47 pm

    So neat that you get to travel so much, but I definitely understand your cons as well. It’s hard living out of a suitcase, and definitely gets old after awhile!! What do you do that you travel so much? So cool that you get to do it with your husband, anyway! 🙂


    • chelsea

      October 12, 2013 at 9:33 pm

      my husband is a public speaker and i manager our business so we are traveling around north america inspiring our generation and aspiring speakers to use their voice and send a message! yes it’s tough but absolutely great i get to do it with my husband-thanks katie!