What To Do When You “Just Don’t Feel Like It”
do you ever just wake up and say “yeah…i’m just not really interested in doing anything productive today because i don’t feel like it.”
that’s been me lately. i have a ‘to-do’ list a mile long, goals i want to reach and exciting things on the horizon but i haven’t really been ‘feeling’ it lately so i find mundane and meaningless things to do instead. my soup cans and boxes of crackers are really nicely organized though!
it’s embarrassing to admit but thank goodness other humans are reading this and i bet you’ve also experienced this.
thankfully i have some solid people in my life and my friend jessica recently recommended the “the 15 invaluable laws of growth” by john c. maxwell to me.
i procrastinated getting the book for a few months but finally picked it up at my local library (by the way, libraries are amazing! they just give you books and cds FOR FREE).
i am about 3 chapters in but it’s already proving to be a solid read. i have mixed feelings about all of john maxwell’s content but am really resonating with this here book and think he does offer great insight into things.
the first chapter is called “the law of intentionality: growth doesn’t just happen,” which is so true but more on that later. here is something mr. maxwell found while in a doctor’s office in a medical journal and it’s called “just do it” (pg. 8)
“we hear it almost every day; sigh, sigh, sigh. i just can’t get myself motivated to…(lose weight, test my blood sugar, etc)…we have news for you. motivation is not going to strike you like lightning. and motivation is not something that someone else (nurse, doctor, family member) can bestow or force on you. the whole idea of motivation is a trap. forget motivation. just do it.
exercise, lose weight, test your blood sugar or whatever. do it without motivation and then guess what. after you start doing the thing, that’s when the motivation comes and makes it easy for you to keep on doing it.
motivation is like love and happiness. it’s a by-product. when you’re actively engaged in doing something, it sneaks up and zaps you when you least expect it.
as harvard psychologist jerome bruner says, ‘you’re more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.’ so act! whatever it is you know you should do, do it.”
this literally blew my mind. i think i’m going to print this out and hang it in my office. or cross-stitch it (dang it chelsea! do more productive things jeeeez) i am absolutely guilty of waiting for motivation to strike me so that i can finally put into action the strategy for ‘the new wifestyle’ or workout or read the books that i know will help me.
i was a little bummed to realize this isn’t how it works and we have to just suck it up and get started anyway. isn’t there like a motivation pill we can take or something? no. we just have to do it and start the trek up the mountain anyways.
i am mainly writing this for myself on this monday morning to give myself a little kick in the pants and get started on what i need to do but hopefully it helps you do the same. we can be in this together and do the things that aren’t fun at first but if we are lucky, that motivation will zap us while we are in the middle of doing it and it will suck less. and even if the motivation doesn’t strike, at least we are moving forward and up the mountain.
1) what work thing do you procrastinate the most? (i despise emails and thinking of new ideas. they both scare me)
2) how do you find motivation within to suck it up and do things anyway?
3) any books you’ve read recently that helped give you a mindset shift?