5 Beliefs You Must Hold to Go After Your Dreams
i am still slowly coming to terms with the idea that social workers don’t suck at being entrepreneurs (aka my life now). for those of you new to reading this-my husband is a professional speaker and executive coach while i manage our business operations and do coaching/speaking as well.
i also have some big, scary, and exciting dreams/goals for the this here website of ‘the new wifestyle’ so stay tuned…
here are 5 things i’ve learned over the past year of owning a business with my husband that are essential to going after your dreams:
1) i am capable.
not only am i capable but WE (meaning you and me and that guy sitting over there on that bench) are capable of whatever we are trying to accomplish, i’ve discovered that we are actually capable of more than we set out to do initially. when you have “those days” when you find it hard to believe this, call a friend, family member or mentor help remind you because it’s the cold, hard, scary truth! in order to discover we are capable, we must first be bold.
2) time is more precious than money
sure, we all need money and it makes the world go ’round and who doesn’t love a new purse every now and then but there is something so much greater than making money…it is choosing how to spend your time. you can always make more money one way or another but no matter what-once time is gone, it is gone forever. i’ve found it incredibly rewarding to spend my most precious resource (time) doing what i want and when i want to most recently with starting a small business. admittedly, i have also spent some of this precious time wasting away in front of mind-numbing TV shows, countless hours on facebook and having panic attacks. hey, i never said i had this down 100%-only that i’m learning.
3) dreams don’t get accomplished between 9-5
i’m in the midst of reading the “4 hour work week” by timothy ferriss and he calls to attention the fact that the 9am-5pm work day is completely made-up by society and really pointless in terms of productivity. of course it gives us structure to function in the world but no way does every single person’s job take 8 hours to complete, typically 5 days out of the week. this truly blew my mind. whether you are working at a company during the day and pursuing your dreams around that or getting to dream while you work, dreams don’t get accomplished during a specific set of hours.
that being said, dreams need to turn into goals which need to have tangible actions and timeframes around them but they don’t have to be in sync with everyone else. i used to be of the mindset that my productivity had to occur strictly within the hours of 9-5 and before or after that was “me time” which usually meant zoning out in front of a TV or blank wall. you need to figure out when and where you are most productive and sometimes that is outside in the sunshine.
it’s finally summer in portland and my soul (and pasty skin) need to be outside!
4) you create your own reality
when people used to say to me “you can be whatever you want to be” and “go confidently in the direction of you dreams and live the life you’ve imagined” i may have provided a very serious eye-roll in their general direction. see, i used to be a pretty pessimistic person but i’m working on that. i am also very lucky to have met a guy that helped me realize these weren’t just cheesy things on magnets but could actually be our life if we decided we wanted to make our dreams a reality.
i had the MOST transformative year of my life last year because i had a total and complete mindset shift. i do still provide some empathy to fellow eye-rollers because i know it’s hard to grasp that you can create your own reality if this is something you never thought to be true.
also remember i’m still a social worker so i’ll just get all cognitive-behavioral and process-y on your ass and encourage you to give it a shot when you roll your eyes. you already don’t have what you want, so what’s the worst that could happen? if you don’t like something, change it. you are in charge of your own reality.
5) goals, cookies and hugs are vital for dreams
i’ve found these three things to be essential when working for your dreams, particularly when you work from home. set up a schedule with your goals and stick to it. it helps to keep you focused, your goals on track and to aid a little bit in the hours lost on the crazy inter-web. need help setting SMART goals? go here!
the cookies are vital for stress relief and celebrations.
the hugs are to yourself for being brave and bold in this new reality you are creating. hugs are also important from people who fully support you and what you are doing. this may not always be your close friends or family members so find those fellow dreamers and mentors (and hopefully your spouse) and don’t be afraid to ask for some serious hugging because this biznass is ain’t for the weak of heart!
the new wifestyle: be bold, be capable and be kind to yourself
i loooove comments so please answer one (or all!) of the questions below or leave a comment. please also pass this article on to a fellow friend who is a dreamer!
1) share one of your dreams with me! c’mon-be bold.
2) what else would you add to the above list for reaching your dreams?
3) who is your ‘go-to’ person that you can count on for dreaming with?