Sometimes Jacuzzi Talk Gets Real

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we spent 3 whole days in Houston, much of which involved a ton of work, snuggles with dogs and lots of delicious home cooked meals! i also cannot tell you how amazing towels not from hotels are…the fluffiness has been missed. take a look at this glamour shot of these dogs…

relationship blog dogsthis next round involves 6 workshops in Dearborn and Grand Rapids- MI, Toronto and Waterloo- Canada, Minnetonka, MN and Cedar Rapids, IA wrapping up the 2013 part of our tour (most are sold out but find tickets here). we are also each taking a fun side trip in the middle of this round too-YAY! i found it much easier to pack for a mere 19 days of freezing weather compared to my stressful 68 days worth of packing for 4 seasons like our last portion. it’s amazing how your perspective can change.

relationship blog packing up again travel blogeven though it looks chaotic-just trust me that it was much easier.

after we got all packed up, my husband and i took a 30 minute break and had a dip in the jacuzzi. don’t my in-laws have a wonderful pool that we are so lucky to use!?

relationship blog travel blog houston pool

we sat and watched the Texas sunset as we discussed all that we not only dreamed but actually accomplished over the past year. i started to feel very proud of myself for knocking my anxiety aside and pushing myself farther than i ever dreamed by taking huge risks(more on that in another post). the conversation moved into what we want our 2014 dreams/goals to look like.

Ravery, my husband, mentioned that “we really need to start taking risks,” and i immediately got defensive and said “hellllllo! this whole year has been about risks for me! i’ve traveled 61 cities, quit my job to start a business with you, moved away from a city i loved and am currently on a 6 month tour!!! if those aren’t risks…i don’t know what is!” i am guilty of getting rather defensive and heated quickly to make my point and i’m working on this.

my husband then said “well yeah, of course we did all those things and it was awesome but i want to do even more.”

i took a second and realized what he was trying to say. he wasn’t necessarily saying that we hadn’t taken any risks but rather that he wanted to continue taking even more because it has pushed us into incredible things.

after i swam around in little circles for a minute, i was able to communicate that it would be helpful for my brain to interpret what he was trying to get across if he merely incorporated a few words like  “we should take some more risks.” to me, that acknowledges that we have taken risks and should continue to try out new things because we’ve gained more than we imagined. now we are both on the same page to move forward with our future conversations and do so with both of our needs being met. who’s starting to set their 2014 goals???

in case you wanted to see a picture of me with messy hair and our future dog…here we are!

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the new wifestyle: it’s important that you and your significant other are able to get to a place to express what you are thinking/feeling/wanting and also to express when something doesn’t sit well with you. it takes practice and work but will absolutely take your relationship to a new level.

1) longest trip you’ve ever packed for?
2) what’s the perfect temperature of a jacuzzi to you (i’m a 101 degree person)
3) do you set goals each year and if so do you do it with your significant other?

*bonus-if you know of any favorite places to eat or things to do in any of the above cities we are going to…let me know!*


  1. Kristi

    December 4, 2013 at 9:34 am

    1) My longest trip was my ten month junior year in college to Cairo almost twenty years ago.
    2) No preference on a hot tub temperature.
    3) My goal setting is project based, like how long should I walk my dog this weekend.

    I’ll send a note to couple from Cairo now living in Toronto for restaurant recommendations.

    My bonus question for you: what did you name your dog?

    • chelsea

      December 5, 2013 at 7:53 am

      wow 10 months is a crazy long time to pack for but Cairo is an amazing city so i bet it was worth it 🙂 and i like that your goal setting is project based-hopefully you set a high goal for walking the dog! thanks for the email from your friends Kristi!

      also-here name is Sugarbelle/Sugar/Shuga-suuug or Einstein 🙂

  2. Joe

    December 4, 2013 at 3:18 pm

    Centre Island in Toronto was kinda fun. There’s Casanova Lima just north of, a medieval castle with views of the CN tower, and all sorts of wineries between Toronto and Niagara. They specialize in Ice Wine and ports (if you’re into that sort of thing)

    • chelsea

      December 5, 2013 at 7:54 am

      ohhh we may need to check that out-thanks for the recommendation Joe! i don’t think i’ve ever actually had “ice wine” so now that has my name all over so i shall need to keep my eyes peeled. yum. thank you!

  3. Joe

    December 4, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    Casa Loma … stupid autocorrect

    • chelsea

      December 5, 2013 at 7:55 am

      i kinda like casanova better 🙂

  4. David

    December 5, 2013 at 7:12 am

    I don’t do a great job of setting annual goals. I’m more of a goal-as-I-go sort of person.

    However, the past couple of years, at the start of the new year, I’ve opened up my Google calendar (sort of an informal diary of places I’ve been and things I’ve done) and taken stock of what I have accomplished in the prior year. I’m usually pretty amazed at myself for managing everything I’ve managed through the year!

    • chelsea

      December 5, 2013 at 7:57 am

      i used to be a “goals as you go” person too since you can’t necessarily accomplish everything in 1 year. i’m glad that you do keep a record David of all the things you’ve done over the year and managed what you have-it’s a great feeling huh 🙂

  5. marcgabris

    December 7, 2013 at 2:31 pm

    its incredible all the things you’ve done in one year! you should feel very proud. i admire your courage with all the risks you’ve taken.

    1) about 2 months
    2) i think about 98 (i like to be in there for a while)
    3) i think this will be the first year we set goals together

    • chelsea

      December 10, 2013 at 8:06 am

      thank you Marc for your nice words and acknowledging my risk taking 🙂 ! so happy to hear you are going to be setting goals together this year! be patient with one another, hear each other out and do what works for you both as individuals and as a couple!