why “me” time is vital

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something very very VERY important is happening tomorrow between the hours of 8:45am-3:30pm…i am participating in “me” time! when i realized that the in-laws would be out of town and ravery would be in his scuba diving class (more on that later) during the above time, i honestly almost started crying tears of happiness. while i love being around my husband, family and friends-this wife needs her solitary time to keep my mind, body and soul balanced.

my ideal amount of alone time would range from 1-3 hours a day (although i haven’t gotten that much consistent alone time for a few months but we are talking ideal here people). it helps me relax my mind, do some soul searching and recharge from being around people. introvert much? yes, i am. ravery, on the other hand needs about 5 minutes of alone time. extrovert much? yes, he is. it has taken some time for us to pinpoint that one of the areas we differ in is the amount of time we need to ourselves. mainly- how i really need “me” time in order to maintain my sanity and unfortunately for him, he cannot participate in my “me” time (though he often asks).

game plan for tomorrow:

9:00am- attempt to recreate this boozy-hot chocolate i had at timberline lodge on mt. hood in oregon. i already found the toffee.

wife blog timberline lodge hot chocolate

10:30am wake back up from my sugar/kahlua coma and workout.

12:00pm eat my favorite: annie’s mac and cheese. maybe i’ll get real crazy and add broccoli.

chelsea mac

12:30-1:30pm- zone out. most likely at a wall or the pool.

1:30-2:30pm- go to michael’s and pick out a craft project (i could really spend hours in there).

2:30-3:25pm: work on my selected craft while watching harry potter and wearing this shirt i made for deathly hallows part 2:

wife blog harry potter snitch ain't one ryan avery chelsea avery

3:25-3:30pm sit in front of my computer so when ravery walks in i can tell him i’ve been working very hard.

3:30-10pm: snuggle with ravery because my “me” time battery has been fully recharged and i’m muuuuch more pleasant to be around. and probably kick his keester in cards.

i am so excited about all the possibilities all to myself tomorrow, i am slightly fearful i may lose sleep over this.

the new wifestyle: take full advantage of “me” time and make sure you participate in whatever the hell you choose to do.

1) how much “me” time do you need/would you like?
2) does your significant other need more or less than you?
3) favorite “me” time activities include….?


  1. debra

    July 19, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    1) Lots of “me” time required here.
    2) When we were younger he required almost no “me” time. But think now he enjoys his recharging, think tank time.
    3) Drawing and painting

    • chelsea

      July 20, 2013 at 1:30 pm

      must run in the family 🙂 i am glad he is appreciating more recharging time-that is great! i hope you have had some time to draw and paint lately debra!

  2. Dmite

    July 19, 2013 at 2:52 pm

    I don’t get nearly as much as I like! ( you will figure that out when you are a momma of a 3 year old)! I do like lots and enjoy them biking or rowing! When I push my body so start the thinking wheels! I don’t sit still very well! Active alone time is ideal! I’ve found ways to incorporate my likes into special times with the kid! Taking walks together, geocaching! These are our connect with nature moments and the times unique conversations occur and when we slow down to appreciate the world!

    • chelsea

      July 20, 2013 at 1:32 pm

      that is one of my issues with having kids…that “me” time sure seems hard to come by! that excellent that you’ve figured out how to meld the active activities with your your 3 year old dmite-smaaart! i am super excited to live somewhere again where i can be active outdoors!

  3. Heather Hawkins

    July 19, 2013 at 5:57 pm

    1) I could use at least 2-3 hours a day. But, while we’ve been in the US I have gotten maybe 15 minutes a day.
    2) I think we both require about the same amount. Which is useful because then we can just walk into other rooms and do whatever and meet back up.
    3) I like to read, do my nails, and oddly enough…housework. I like to get down and dirty with the detail work. REALLY. And quilting. Can’t forget quilting.

    • chelsea

      July 20, 2013 at 1:34 pm

      yup those 2-3 hours can be hard time come by and i am still working on appreciating those 15 minutes when i get them too! i wish my “me” time involved wanting to do detailed housework-that’s pretty excellent heather. i’ve heard quilting is pretty grand too!

  4. Dinah Sherrill

    July 21, 2013 at 5:01 am

    I ended up having ME time yesterday for like 4 hours! I kicked the hubby and kid out! Told him I needed some down time! Ended up organizing my weekly meal plans and searching for exciting recipes and working on blog drafts!! It was superb!! As a mother you just have to be creative but at the same time you want to spend all your time with this little being!!! You get to play and that is the best therapy you could ask for!!!

  5. Paula Howley

    July 21, 2013 at 5:04 am

    1. I need a couple of hours a day at least. And I’m like you Chelsea- when I know there’s a big block coming up, I get all excited and make lists too!!!!!! I sent Meaghan to bed at 7:00 pm during school for this reason alone. I also took a 2 hour lunch during home school season as well- recharge during the day. Of course, it’s not all me time…sigh…. this coming week we will be camping and I fully expect Meg to find some playmates and take off for the whole day like she did last year. Can’t wait!!!!
    2. I think he needs a lot less than I do.
    3. Reading (I have a book and 5 National Geographics with me for next week)!!! I also like to organize things that need organizing and go through stacks of stuff, throwing out the stuff I don’t need anymore. I LOVE getting rid of stuff I don’t need and also stuff that I think my husband and daughter don’t need either. (they often find old belongings at the Sally Ann!) I also really like to sit on my deck or on my swing and marvel at the fact that I have a yard to look at and a home to live in. I like to sit there and tool around on my computer. It’s AWESOME. This is usually the only time I really do my nails anymore either!!!

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