Where Do You Even Begin With Spirituality? 

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where do you even begin with spirituality? religion and spirituality aren’t things i discuss on this blog and that is mainly by design.

there are many many many websites and blogs that incorporate religion into their marital and relationships advice and i think that’s great for many people! because there are so many resources out there centered around religion, i do make an intentional choice to offer insight for both those who don’t identify with organized religions and those that do. 

i plan on writing more about this in the near future. i do think spirituality plays a role in who we are as women and as partners and should be explored.

i asked my good friend holly, a badass entrepreneur and empowered woman to share her thoughts on spirituality because she is consultant, speaker and facilitator on leadership and spirituality. funny how that worked out, isn’t it!? i’ve already read this four times today because she offers inclusive, practical and thoughtful insight on the subject. 

(please note that i did not force nor pay her to say the first sentence-promise!)

First off you have to know that I ADORE, yes with a capitol A Ms. Chelsea for stepping up to write this blog and build this community. Then, she asks me to write a blog on spiritual relationships for the blog. My mouth said yes and my mind said…WTF? So here we go….

Spiritual: the condition of honoring your spirit, your soul or your essence.

As we come together via the new wifestlye to co-create and re-create as women what it means to be a wife and partner in the 21st century, it seems clear to me that we must discover our own spirit. Give yourself permission to explore the spirit of you.

What lights you up? There is, after all, just one thing going on here. Here, meaning on our planet. That this is love. To be in spiritual relationship with your partner, or husband you must first be in partnership with yourself. Wait; go back in loving partnership with yourself. You have to love everything about yourself enough to let another person in to that place.

As together we explore spiritually, let us consider loving ourselves first. Here are three ways I invite you to go deeper in the relationship with yourself to have a deeper relationship with your partner:

Daily Practice

Loving yourself is a day in day out exploration.  Take 5-10 minutes out of the day for you each day. For me, it works first thing in the morning. I stop, still and remember that each day is a gift, an opportunity to experience and express more life.

  • Meditation

I use meditation as my tool to connect to the inner me. Meditation is my tool to listen to my heart. By asking myself daily “What do I want?” I become more and more clear each day how to build that as my reality.

  • Affirmations

Look for the good in you and affirm it every chance you get. In todays 24/7/365 pace, keep it simple and tweetable. Here is an example. “I am peace, and joy. I love myself exactly the way I am in this moment.” Keep affirmations around the house in places where you will remind yourself how amazing you are.

  • Gratitude

I keep a little journal by my bed. Each night I write down 5 things I am grateful for that day.

There is only one thing going on these planet spiritual souls, energetic beings trying to navigate the ups and downs of life. Each of us trying to love and be loved. No matter what your sexual orientation, other identities or even what your definition of “new wifestyle,” it begins with love of self.

The universe does not ask us to give what we do not have and go broke. It asks us to give of what we have and receive in return. So claim your ‘new wifestyle’ now pick one or two of these tools and build a loving relationship with yourself that you can then share with your partner, your work and through all aspects of your life. The more you know your spirit, the more you can build a spiritual connection with your partner.

Let there be love…

Holly Duckworth, CAE, CMP is CEO of Leadership Solutions International as consultant, speaker and facilitator on leadership and spirituality. Author of Ctrl+Alt+Believe: Reboot Your Association For Success, Holly is a columnist for MeetingsNet/IdeaExchange on the meetings industry and writes a regular on the future of spirituality in business. She lives in Denver, Colorado. Visit her at www.hollyduckworth.com, on LinkedIn & follow her on twitter @hduckworth

new spirituality remindersquestions:

how does faith/spirituality intersect with your relationship?
do you practice any daily meditation or gratitude journaling? 


  1. Amanda Wood

    February 6, 2015 at 9:57 am

    I LOVE THIS! What great tips and advice on connecting with yourself. That’s my word this year, Connect. So I’m definitely going to have to add some of these to my daily routine.
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    • chelsea

      February 7, 2015 at 5:31 pm

      so super grateful for holly spelling it out so simply! love your word of the year amanda and this goes so nicely with that!

  2. Paula Howley

    February 6, 2015 at 5:50 pm

    Great ideas, yes. Sometimes hard to do with a kid and a husband on shift work but you NEVER. STOP. TRYING. lol
    Don’t be afraid to blog about this Chelsea- spirit is part of us! Congrats on taking a huge step!
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    • chelsea

      February 7, 2015 at 5:36 pm

      absolutely agree to never stop trying, paula! thanks for your encouragement on blogging more about spirituality in the future-i really appreciate it! i’m often hesitant because of how it will be perceived and because i don’t fall in line with many other bloggy wives or the general population but that’s part of what makes me me i supppppose. 🙂
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