Promises to Our Daughter

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my heart hurts. as i laid my sweet baby girl to bed last night after finding out the results, i sat alone and cried. this is not the world or the leader i want her to grow up in/around.


the only thing that is slightly diminishing this pain, embarrassment, shame and fear is that me and my husband get direct access to her to raise her – not that racist, sexist, bigot excuse of a man.

*we promise to raise her to love, respect and fight for people similar AND different than her.

*we promise to show her that love and compassion are musts in this world and unfortunately she won’t be able to look at the president of the USA for the next 4 years to find that.

*we promise to show her how to use her voice to stand up for what’s right and to stand up against bullies.

*we promise to raise someone that will be infinitely better than that embarrassing excuse for a human, let alone “leader” of this once great country.

*we promise to lead and live by example.

please hold the united states in your thoughts.


*offensive comments will be deleted.


  1. Elyse @ Just Murrayed

    November 9, 2016 at 9:03 am

    My heart hurts for my friends down south! Thinking of all the women, visible minorities, and LGBTQ folk. This isn’t an easy day but I can’t help but think we will all remember this and won’t make the mistake again.

    P.S. The only good thing about having a daughter in this world right now is that little Atlas is too small to even comprehend what’s happened so you don’t have to answer any “hard” questions.
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    • chelsea

      November 15, 2016 at 8:10 pm

      you are very right that at least we don’t have to explain to her how a bully can make his way to the top. sigh. thanks for your thoughts elyse

  2. Audrey

    November 9, 2016 at 9:04 am

    I don’t know what to say because I truly feel for moms and dads raising kids in this new environment. It’s enough to make me question having kids for the next 4 years. You’re going to raise her right, Chelsea. No worries.
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    • chelsea

      November 15, 2016 at 8:11 pm

      thanks audrey. i know. i was originally planning on spacing atlas and her sibling 3 years apart but who knows what the world will look like then. uggggh.

  3. Paula Howley

    November 9, 2016 at 10:31 am

    I’m so sorry my friend. I loved the picture of you and Attie wearing your Nasty Woman shirts- was so excited for both of us being moms of girls, for the paradigm change around the entire world.
    I stayed up until 4:00 a.m. in literal shock last night- shock and disgust alternating. It was only when I read your post this morning that I let myself cry Chelsea. The disappointment is SO huge. SO huge.

    Like Oswald Patton said “Last night we found out America is WAAAAAAAAYYYYY more sexist than racist. And we are really fucking racist.”
    Chels, I wish I could give you both a hug. We all have some serious work to do dismantling privilege. I have faith in you and Ryan. You stand for all that I think is good. Sending you love honey.
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    • chelsea

      November 15, 2016 at 8:12 pm

      i was so very ready for that shift too and truly never for 1 second believed he would become president. i think that’s why it’s so hard to deal with too – it’s not only horrendous but also deeply shocking. thank you also for standing for all that is good paula – thankful to know you

  4. Nina @ Hugs and Lattes

    November 9, 2016 at 2:08 pm

    Today is an embarrassing day to be a white woman who calls herself a Christian, because what I have seen in the media from “Christians” does not sound or look very Christ-like to me. It breaks my heart to see so much hatred in the world when I know that our purpose is to love each other. I have hope and am encouraged to have people like you in the world, because you love fiercely and I know you two will raise your daughter to be a strong woman who is respectful, critical thinking, and loving. Thank you for being an awesome mama <3
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    • chelsea

      November 15, 2016 at 8:15 pm

      i am glad to hear you say that nina because that is part of why i stepped away from organized religion. it’s very sad and a lot of people say one thing and then do something very different. it breaks my heart too. i will continue to fight for you, your soon-to-be-husband (!!! yay !!!) and your mixed race children that i know you want one day.

  5. chelsea jacobs

    November 10, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Yes yes yes. I had a very similar day. But I’m comforted by the fact that mine and chris’ voice will be louder in Jack’s life than that shameful voice.
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    • chelsea

      November 15, 2016 at 8:15 pm

      you are right, chelsea. thankfully our voices will be louder for our children and i hope also for the rest of the world (and everyone effected in our own country too). hugs!

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