The New Wifestyle Profiles | Marlaina

i am pleased to introduce marlaina on today’s wifestyle profile! she is a brand new mom and brand new wife with lots going on in her world as a 21 year old. she shares some of her struggles, her triumphs and what it means to be a strong woman. feel free to connect with marlaina on her facebook for further conversations and let’s show her support in the comments. thanks for sharing a piece of your story, marlaina!

the ‘wifestyle profiles’ will take a short break for the holidays but i would love to feature more strong women who are living in empowering relationships! if you or someone you know would like to be featured, please send me an email at chelsea (at) thenewwifestyle.com! thank you to all of the women who have shared their stories, you are truly amazing!

I think a strong woman is not someone who stands out but rather someone who goes after their dreams, working with what they are given to the best of their abilities without letting life drag them down.

For Better or Worse

I am only 21 with a baby and a new husband. Thankfully the only troubles we had to deal with was family disapproval (from mine) early on and money. We have stuck together through thick and thin and proven that we will be at each others side for better or for worse. I got Pregnant at 20 living on our own, I was working for Walmart and Judah was in between jobs, and we weren’t married.

Judah very quickly got a job at an oil refinery doing manual labor which luckily paid enough for me to stay home because by four months it was very hard for me to stand eight hours and my morning sickness was the kind you need a restroom for. I was happy to be able to stay at home and focus on eating and doing what I could to have a healthy baby. But, I could see general labor and working with people he couldn’t have intelligent conversation with was killing Judah. We finally had to sit down and discuss what we wanted for our future.

Scott was born a healthy happy baby and a choice had been made. Judah had been thinking about joining the Navy for years; to support our family and to better himself by going to school. He has been officially sworn in, picked a job, and is due to ship out in March. It is scary having him so far away; the longest we have ever been apart is two weeks.  We Skyped every night. I know that I have to be strong for him because as hard as it is for me not having him, he will be missing me and his son who will be growing and walking without him.

I know we can make it and this whole experience will make us a better couple. I love him with all my heart. The fact that he will be bettering himself and that this is making him happy makes me happy. Supporting your spouse should be easy and being their rock should be second nature.

Personally I think our ability to love, support, and listen to each other extends beyond any distance and the little time we get to be with each other or talk to one another will be enough to get us through the times we can’t. I don’t believe in true love or love at first sight but I do believe in choice. The fact we chose each other amongst the millions of people out there speaks louder than any poem, song, or fairytale ending ever could.

Life is hectic and can beat you down.  However, the belief that any situation can get better, following your dreams no matter how many times you’ve been discouraged, letting love in to lift you up, and realizing sometimes you need someone to give you a hand; nothing will stop you or break you. That is being a strong and powerful. To love and live, for better or worse.

Questions:
When was a time you had a tough situation you had to overcome?
What is one situation you had to be strong for your better half?