What To Do On Your “Love Day” + Giveaways!
you probably didn’t notice that i wasn’t on social media last sunday but i sure as hell did. those embarrassing ‘addict’ moments of reaching for my phone to snap a photo, post on instagram or text someone came on strong that morning but i didn’t indulge.
the reason for my strength not to indulge? my husband and i scheduled a love day and we agreed to keep our phones on airplane mode and away from us as well as work tabled for the moment. we told our parents to not expect to hear from us (which was an important step in the process because some family members’ minds go straight to assuming we must be dead when they don’t hear from us).
before we get into what to do on your “love day,” it’s important you understand why it’s so important. the ‘love day’ is different than just agreeing to spend a few hours together uninterrupted. it’s a full day dedicated to focusing on each other and our marriage. we try to do this at least once a month because it gives us the boundaries we need so we can keep running a healthy marriage and business together.
i will be the first to admit that my phone is one of my biggest distractions. when i don’t want to work or write, i check my weather app. not just for my city of portland, oregon but for the other 9 cities where my family is spread out. i love clicking on hashtags in instagram and getting sucked in and seeing what passive aggressive things are said on facebook. it’s a total time suck and it sucks me away from my relationship too.
of course i had anxiety about turning my phone on airplane mode because my mind instantly went to “oh no! what if something really does happen to someone in our family and they can’t get ahold of us?!” that didn’t happen.
we spent the morning at the waffle window (photo from when i went earlier in the week. my husband became very jealous when he saw this and insisted it be a requirement of love day). we reminisced about our first date together.
to aid in the digestion process of the waffles, we walked around a bookstore. there is something so romantic about a bookstore to me. it’s something about the old wooden shelves and that distinct smell of books waiting to be read. i was on a mission to find 2 books in particular, the go-giver (thanks for the recommendation jessica!) and the desire map.
we came home, snuggled up in bed and read. it was incredibly relaxing. although we were both engrossed in our own books, we felt close, legs intertwined with a pup at the edge of the bed.
the rest of the day consisted of long walks in the sunshine, playing backgammon (you should know i won), cooking dinner together and watching a movie. it was filled with meaningful and uninterrupted conversation, lots of eye contact (since there was no instagram for my eyes) and admiration for the life we are creating together (not a baby life…just like…life). making time on this day to fully focus on ourselves and no one else always energizes us and serves as a reminder just how much we enjoy choosing to be in this relationship together.
i recommend doing this as soon as you can. put it on your calendars, block it out. obviously it’s easier for us since we don’t have kids but even if you can get a sitter for a full or half day to spend time together, it will do wonders for your love.
suggestions for what to do on you “love day”
- take a walk together and share your favorite trait about each other
- go to brunch (without instagramming it)
- play games
- explore your city
- have a staring contest
- talk about the first time you held hands/kissed/made love (oooh la la)
- cook a meal together
since we are on the topic of love and since it’s friday (hip hip hoooray), how about some love for yourself! i’m part of not one but two giveaways this week! the first is hosted by nina @ the grand adventures of me. you could win $50 to target (and if you live in oregon this means exactly 50 things from the dollar section. heyo no sales tax), a DIY mug design of your choice and fresh appalachian coffee from nina’s favorte coffee shop in tennessee!
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you can also get in on a $50 sephora gift card, hosted by meagan @ all the joys blog! is this your lucky day or what?!
fingers crossed that a wifestyler wins the giveaways and no fingers crossed for you scheduling a love day because you don’t need luck for that, just love.
1) what’s your biggest technological distraction?
2) what books are you reading now?
3) when is your ‘love day’ scheduled for?