Think 2016 Sucked? Change Your Outlook
yes, i know it’s the second day of 2017 but i just got done processing 2016. in my mind at least, the previous year doesn’t simply stop existing when you drink the last of the champagne at 12:01am (or day drink margaritas at 2pm and then go to bed at 8:37pm because #parenthood).
with that, i can’t get on the bandwagon of trashing 2016. i just can’t. yes, i have very strong feelings around our embarrassing/dangerous president-elect. yes, some quality celebrities passed away – but i did not personally know them (and nobody gets out alive anyway).
i’m going to throw some dumbledore at you with this quote, “happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.”
so turn on the light party-people. it’s about our mindsets and what we choose to focus on. put together your “once impossible list” or your “accomplishment list for 2016” and focus on the positive of this year.
one of the ways that i am choosing to focus on the positive of this year (because it was a grand year for us), is choosing the top 16 photos from my life. my husband did his a few weeks ago, you can check out his pretty incredible ones HERE. i already knew i couldn’t put mine together until my sister and i saw each other at christmas and had our daughters play together for the very first time!
so here we go:
1) moving from portland to denver
we moved from portland, oregon at the beginning of 2016. crazy. i love this photo because while portland will always hold a special place for me, when we visited for our friends’ wedding – i knew we made the right decision to move to colorado. that felt amazing and relieving.
2) getting to officiate our best friends’ wedding!
we love them. i wrote all about how hard it is to find couples you both get along with and adore – alison and matt are these people for us! also a reminder – your wedding day should be what you want – and if that includes 6 people and a BBQ later with other friends, do it.
3) my husband completing the ironman!
here’s the full recap – it’s a tear-jerker. still so proud of him (and he’s super lucky he married a hilarious woman).
4) birthing a human while feeling every single thing
because i created a human with my body and then brought it into this world. i mean, that’s pretty impressive. full birth story here.5) proud feminists, obviously.
6) this guy.
ravery has truly helped me so through deep and dark times this year as i continue to deal with postpartum depression. he’s an incredible father, amazing partner and successful speaker. i am so grateful i get to spend my life with him and that he is the father of atlas!
7) atlas’ first smile!
this was taken on october 2, at 3am and suddenly my love for her and parenting increased 10 fold!
8) becoming mothers at the same time as my sister! #sistermoms
getting to see my little sister being an excellent mom is so fun! my heart was so full meeting my first niece and for our little girls so play together. and by play – i mean suck on each other’s hands.
9) making our parents grandparents and grandparents great-grandparents!
it has been so so fun to see how much all of our parents are enjoying being grandparents to our girls! let the record show, though they are not pictured in this one below – my stepdad is an amazing grandpop and papa loves being a great-grandpa!
10) my dad smiling big!
i haven’t seen such a happy face filled with joy on my dad in a while. that makes me happy!
11) my amazing in-laws!
they have been such a huge help in taking our sweet little one so we can get work done or simply go on a date together!
12) our first international trip with our daughter!
we ventured to toronoto canada (and elyse gave us so many grand recommendations)! this photo is 110 stories up on top of the revolving CN Tower!
13) sugar is still the best dog!
she really is the very best dog. she adores atlas and her tail wags faster and faster the closer she gets to her. she let’s her tug on her fur and gets extreme joy licking her hands, which makes atlas smile and it’s the cutest.
14) averytoday, inc. christmas party!
when my husband and i started our business together 4 years ago, we dreamed of someday being able to host a christmas party for all of our family members. this year was it and it filled us with such pride and gratitude!
15) we bought our first house!
we closed on our house on 12/6, ravery left for 2 days after and then we went to toronto for a week. that means we came home and immediately had to get ready for christmas guests (22 to be exact with 2 staying with us) and put our house in order. it was wild but worth it!
we adore our new home!
16) our “fireplace” 7 years ago vs. today
we have a real life fireplace! to me, this photo demonstrates the power of visualization. 7 years ago, we spent our first christmas alone in portland and to make me feel less depressed, i came home from grad school to find the faux-fireplace my husband made. note the three stockings – and then look at our three stockings on our new fireplace. pretty amazing!
with that, i now feel like i can better close out 2016 and start to sort out how i want my 2017 to look. thank you to each and every single person who reads, comments and shares my writing. i don’t take that likely and i sincerely appreciate you. cheers to a marvelous new year!