Strive For Adding Value, Not Being Perfect!
we have been having a truly incredible time in australia! i am bursting with stories, insights, lessons learned and amazing photos of what we’ve been experiencing these past few days!
we flew into perth, australia last week and over the past 5 days we have been in kalgoorlie, australia, a gold mining town that’s a six hour drive from perth! more on the historic, risque and unique town of kalgoorlie (pronounced cal-goo-lee) soon.
my husband and i are were invited to speak at the district 17 toastmasters conference here and while i’ll get into that more in a future post (spoiler alert- one of the best conferences we’ve ever been to) this was the first time we were able to give an hour keynote together!
with a mix of lingering jet lag and probably nerves, my body woke up the morning of our workshop at 3:30am. the tossing and turning continued and by 4:30am i decided to get up and do something more productive. since we are in a hotel room, i couldn’t exactly flip on the TV or work at the desk so i found the next best spot as to not disrupt my slumbering husband…the gorgeous bathtub (or as they call it here ‘the spa’):
here is where i sat to run through our presentation and also where i had a few moments of panic that the town ghosts would think it hilarious to mysteriously turn on the faucet but that didn’t happen (thank goodness). the topic of our speech was around communication within your personal relationships, professional relationships and most importantly how you communicate with yourself.
as you may know, i struggle with anxiety and of course public speaking falls in that category for me too. i also feel extra pressure when i speak since i’m married to a world champion…and i also coached him. eeeeeek the perceived pressure is a lot at times because i’m afraid of disappointing people or not being as ‘good’ as they expect me to be.
as i was hyping myself up mentally, fearing that i’d forget my lines or just flat out pass out on stage, i realized that as long as one person walked away with even the tiniest nugget that could make his or her day a little better, i would be happy.
moments before we walked on stage together, we agreed that we both wanted to be there to add value and be less concerned about delivering the content perfectly. i realized i want to be the type of speaker and more importantly the type of person that isn’t perfect but delivers value rather than be perfect and be empty. strive for adding value, not being perfect!
i shared this photo on instagram where my virtual friend melinda gave me a present when i arrived in australia. we connected over facebook and this here blog and now we have become in-person AND virtual friends!
my word of the year is capable and that is what the awesome bracelet she gave me says!
as silly as it may seem, making the decision to wear this the day of our speech gave me the extra confidence i needed. it was something tangible to look at and feel. i first had to remind myself why this was my word in the first place. i chose this word as a reminder because i am capable of much more than i often believe of myself (and you are too). thank you melinda!
i know for a fact i did not deliver my parts of the presentation perfectly but that became significantly less important to me as our hour passed. as time moved along, i could feel myself speaking with greater authenticity and sharing what i know and as well as what i don’t know.
i did my best that day, nothing more and nothing less. i’m happy to report that we even had people let us know about the impact our strategies had for their own relationships and communication! that felt good to get confirmation that we are on the right path together.
i am writing this for you and just as much for myself to serve as a reminder that we are capable of more than we often expect of ourselves. we need to believe deeply (and sometimes uncomfortably) that we are capable of so much more! let’s agree to stop striving for ‘perfect’ but rather add value.
where is an area you can add value to the people in your life?
ps. i’m coming at you from the close of monday in australia. the future looks good so make the most of your day!