How to Pick Your First Dance Song
if we are besties on instagram/facebook, then you know that yesterday i was running (for exercise, not from the police) and pandora randomly decided to play our “first dance” song from our wedding. however, how to pick your first dance song is no simple task and ours took some time.
when my husband and i started dating 7.65 years ago (i did the math), one of the first dates we went on was to an a cappella concert at our university. they did an awesome rendition of “steal my kisses” by ben harper and right on cue, the cute boy next to me, leaned over and gave me a smooch right on my smacker!
it was sweet and unexpected so we considered it to be our song from there on out. about a year later we got engaged, complete with burritos and misspelled names. the best. as we slowly started planning our wedding (we were engaged for almost 2.5 years before we tied the knot), the ‘first dance song’ select came along.
we both immediately agreed that we should be playing ‘steal my kisses’ as we stare into each other’s eyes and pretend like 224 eyeballs weren’t staring at us. as we turned on the song to practice dancing in our tiny apartment, we discovered it was not the most danceable song. like, at all.
trust me, we tried. it basically just consisted of us moving our heads to the beat and me throwing a shoulder every now and then. to be honest, i was pretty bummed because it was not working out the way i thought. we eventually picked the perfect one and this was our process for how to pick your first dance song:
1) do you already have an “our song?”
if you already have a song that both of you love and it makes you think of each other, that could be the one! remember, try dancing to it multiple times and see if it works for you both. also consider slowing it down or finding acoustic versions too.
2) what are special moments in the past?
this could include a concert you went to together, a song your heard while traveling together or even the song playing in the background at a restaurant when you laughed and margarita came out of your nose. relive some of your moments together because i can guarantee there are songs associated with those memories.
3) what’s the feel you want during your first dance together?
there are literally thousands of sites with song ideas but here are a few to get you started:
are you a classic couple that loves those oldie but goodies?
“at last” -etta james
“it had to be you” -dooley wilson
“L-O-V-E,” Nat King Cole
classic but with a modern twist?
“can’t take my eyes off of you” – lauryn hill
“can’t help falling in love” -ingrid michaelson
“sea of love” -cat power
country loving folks?
“then” -brad paisley
“come a little closer” -dierks bently
“it’s your love” -faith hill and tim mcgraw
super publicly romantic?
“when a man loves a woman” -percy sledge
“drunk in love” -beyonce + jay-z (you must invite me if this is your selection)
more modern love songs?
“i won’t give up” – jason mraz
“make you feel my love” -adele
“such great heights” -the postal service
“the luckiest” -ben folds
“thinking out loud” -ed sheeran
amanda called attention to sara bareilles “i choose you” and i hadn’t seen the music video before! watch it and try not to cry:
after we went through this process, we decided to make our grand entrance to ‘steal my kisses’ and then fade into ‘first day of my life’ by bright eyes. i still love it and get teary whenever i hear it, which i will say is inconvenient when trying to run.
we decided this because i told my then-boyfriend/now-husband that bright eyes was my favorite band in high school (don’t pretend you didn’t have an emo phase). he was a DJ for the college radio station and told me to listen in at a certain time. he proceeded to play “first day of my life” by bright eyes for me. this lead me to crying openly in front of my weirded out male roommates. ha! oh college.
as we retraced that story, we discovered that it was indeed perfect for our first dance at our wedding.
hopefully those questions will help get you to the perfect song for your first dance! if all else fails, just throw on “everybody dance now” and start doing the robot.
if you don’t love dancing who says you need to have a ‘first dance’ anyways?! you don’t. do you and have fun with it all!
1) how did you pick your first dance song?
2) what was it?
3) do you have a favorite love song currently?
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