Writing A Letter to Our Unborn Child
for those of you participating in #31DaysofKindness with us, let’s all finish the challenge out strong! this past weekend, one of the kindness tasks was to write a love letter. my first inclination was to write one to my husband, especially since our 6th wedding anniversary is coming up saturday, 9/3.
instead, we both decided to write a love letter to our unborn child.
i was unprepared for how powerful and moving of an experience this was for me.
my husband sat across from me at our dining room table and the words flowed freely from him to our daughter. he appeared to know exactly what to say to her, despite not yet meeting her.
i stared at my blank piece of paper, not knowing where to start. i have no idea who she is going to be, what she is going to like or if she shares my love for harry potter and puns (i suppose that’s where the ‘nurture’ aspect comes in).
i asked if i could read his letter before he sealed it. as my eyes poured over each word, my heart poured with joy and love for this man. our little one is so lucky to get to call him “dad.”
i started my letter with welcoming her to our family and telling her how glad we are she is joining us. i promise in the letter it sounds less like a receptionist welcoming a guest to the lobby. i shared how lucky she is to have a father who dreams big and does big as well as my promise to help her become a strong, independent and resourceful woman (like her mimi raised me). my hopes and dreams for her started flowing out. i found myself with tears in my eyes, hoping with all my heart she would, at the most basic level, be healthy and happy.
as i went to sign my letter, i froze.
mom?! who the hell is mom? me!? what. as mentioned previously, i am not one of those women who immediately felt like ‘mom’ once i peed on the stick that told me my womb would soon fill. throughout this pregnancy, i have felt like an in-between something.
i was truly unprepared for all of the emotions that swirled in my heart and soul while signing “mom.” i am about to be someone’s mom. one day, this little girl is going to have me in her phone as “mom’s cell” just as i have for my own mom. that is the true definition of ‘mind-blowing’ for me.
my husband and i are still deciding at what age we will give her our letters. i do know how grateful we are to have our thoughts recorded down for her at this point in our lives.
i highly recommend this activity and i have a feeling you (and me) will be so glad we did it. to help get you started, think about answering these few questions in your letter:
- what excites you the most about being her parent?
- what is your hope for her future?
- what is the world currently like and what will that mean for her?
- what values do you plan on instilling in her?
- what dreams do you have for her?
- what true promises can you make?
what else might your letter include?