Things I Want My Daughter to See Me Do
it is quite interesting to see how you personally change once a child enters your life. my husband and i are both big believers in our subconscious forming young and influencing us, whether we like to admit it or not. we want our 7 month old daughter’s subconscious to be filled with healthy, positives things.
we do a decent job but that doesn’t mean i won’t give her a bottle while i watch somewhat trashy TV. balance, right?
here are things i want my daughter to see me do:
- being affectionate and loving to her father (like, dating again)
- being kind and helpful to others
- laughing and being silly
- spending time with friends
- working for social justice and calling out racism/sexism/all the isms
- having fear/anxiety and doing things anyway
- working on my own goals and dreams
- eating healthy while enjoying indulgences
- spending quality time with family members
- sharing household responsibilities with her father
- trying and succeeding at things
- trying and failing at things (thanks for the reminder elyse)
- asking for help and accepting help
- spending time in nature
- being active/working out
- being generous with time, money and talents
- taking credit for the work i do
- apologize when i make a mistake
- leading by example
my husband and i both make it a point to engage her and bring her around while these activities are happening. he will bring her downstairs for a minute or two while i workout. we lay her on a blanket (which she no longer stays on) outside when we are working in the yard. she came with me to the women’s march.
i am realizing how important it is for me to start now. knowing that my daughter already watches me, looks up to me and is influenced by me is powerful. that’s not saying i don’t/won’t make mistakes and screw up. i am human. you are human. beyonce is human. humans make mistakes but i do believe if we are doing our very best, good things happen.
with that, we are off to take a stroll while i inject my own feminist verses into children’s songs. (the wheels on the bus go round and round…the girls on the bus love science and math, science and math…and are paid equalllllly)
what is important for you to be seen doing by children, whether they are yours or not?