The New Wifestyle Profile | Rose
who is ready to a happy dance that it is friday? ME! i’m ultra excited because i get to celebrate this september friday from
the oven phoenix with my sister! my mom and i flew out to hang out with her and have a ladies’ weekend. how fitting that i shall introduce to you today my friend rose – who also lives in arizona! she recently got married in june (in gorgeous hawaii!) and is sharing about what it means to be a wife again after 12 years of being single. rose is outspoken, strong and a leader that i admire. she has also started blogging so pay her a visit and leave her some comment love below!
“Middle Aged Do Over on The New Wifestyle”
Confession time. I am not a first time wife. This is my second marriage. My first happened when I was 20 and lasted almost 10 years. We were like most people married at 20. We grew up and apart. That and he wanted to date other people and I was not totally down with that. So we got divorced and I moved across country to start my life over.
I spent the next 12 years single. I had a relationship that lasted 2 years and then I was pretty much single until my husband was available to date. He was married when I met him and then he was widower. We did not really date but rather just converted our best friend relationship in one that we were seeing each other naked. Now we are married and I am a wife again.
It has been 25 years since my first wedding and this whole married thing is completely new to me. Sure, we lived together for a couple years before jetting off to Hawaii for our wedding but being married is totally new to me. Seriously. I have no clue what to do at times.
When I got married the first time there were no smart phones, or Facebook, or Instagram. I am pretty open, honest, and unfiltered person and he is not. So what the heck do I say online that is ok with him and lets me be open? When I was single I could say whatever the heck I wanted, now I have to temper everything and think about him. That is a switch.
When I was married the first time I made jack for a living so we combined everything (big mistake at the end of the marriage). Now I make a great living but do not combine anything with my spouse. We split everything. No one is in charge, we are both partners in the marriage and finances.
Being partners is a big shift too. He cooks and I clean. We split the household duties rather than dividing them by gender lines. We make decisions together rather than me deferring to my husband. For me being so independent before means I get to have the companionship I wanted and still keep my sense of self.
Another confession, I am 45 years old but this marriage and all the experiences I am having make me feel like someone much younger. That seems to be a great benefit to becoming a wife again. I am not sure there are any do-overs when it comes to marriage. I was married before. It was successfully completed (it had a beginning, middle, and end). But now I am moving on to the next chapter. This time with a partner, an equal, and my best friend. I am definitely new wife stylin’ with a bit of perspective to make it interesting and fun. And I get to learn all those wife things all over again.
want to see the other fabulous women that have written about how they are living their new wifestyle? click HERE!