The Biggest Lessons Learned While on the Road with My Husband
starting september 2013, my husband and i embarked on a 6th month tour around north america. some people doubted our large goal and how it would come to fruition but (i was totally one of them initially) but…we did it! and now it is over and it’s weird and sad and relieving and great and so many emotions (thank goodness i’m not PMSing because this would probably be a whole lot more emotional).
here we are leaving houston for our first leg of the tour (10 weeks on the road with no coming home aka wearing the same things over and over. curious as to what the heck i packed? here it is).
if you’ve been following along with our journey, you have read that i struggle with anxiety and let me tell you…being on the road will cause some ‘flare-ups’ of this initially. there were times when i was really struggling and my husband always made me feel cared for and said “your health, happiness and our relationship is way more important than anything else that we do and if this is too much for you, i understand and let’s make it better.” sometimes i just needed that reminder that everything we do is a choice and if we don’t like our circumstances, we are capable of changing them.
lesson 2: most of things you are stressing about will work themselves out and turn out just fine
again…i’m a stressor and worrier and truly 98% of things that caused me sleepless nights, my forehead to crinkle up and my eyes to be rolled in the general direction of my husband…they worked out. here are some examples:
-having space for only 150 people in a room but someone accidentally setting the registrations to 300 and then 300 people signing up
-venues being pulled out from under you 2 days before an event and having people who signed up driving to the opposite part of town
-booking a rental car at the other airport in a new city
-someone leaving their brand-new cologne in a hotel room and not realizing this until we are 3 states away
-your shower gel exploding (that’s why you really need to keep them in bags)
i decided to bring a little hugging statue that my soulfriend Lindsey and i both have. it used to sit on my nightstand at home so by bringing it with me it felt a little more like home. i also really like the holidays so when i could, i would buy inexpensive festive things that made me feel better about missing home when hopping from a different hotel every night.
lucky for me i also married the sweetest man ever that surprised me with “mobile christmas” since we were traveling right up until christmas! i really did cry and jump up and down. read the whole story HERE:
lesson 4: make working out and eating healthy a priority
eating on the road isn’t the healthiest, even when you strive for choosing the healthy options. trust me, after about 4 fast food salads you won’t be able to choke back that rubbery chicken for long. it’s also hard because our workshops were typically from 6:30-8:30pm so we would eat around 4:30pm to let the food digest and then be ravenous at 9:30pm once we wrapped everything up. sometimes we ate donuts for dinner, which were delicious at the time but less fun as your pants grew tighter. our mouths are open in anticipation for eating the donut in one whole bite.
it’s so much easier when you can motivate one another to work out together. there is a sense of guilt when you stay in the hotel room while your husband is working out and all you are doing is watching Maury and eating skittles. you will always feel better even if only working out for 20 minutes than if you did nothing so make it a priority. those donuts aren’t going to burn themselves off!
lesson 5: don’t be afraid to do things differently
since we were putting on so many workshops, after each and every one we would review my notes, the amount of resources sold and what worked/what didn’t and strive to make the next event even better based off feedback. change up the way you present, fix your handouts, work on a stronger closing because you can always be improving. thank goodness i shaved my armpits that day otherwise the picture below would be a whole lot scarier!
lesson 6: it will get easier
towards the end of our tour i found myself getting more comfortable with traveling (though i think i will always want to be at the airport 2 hours before my flight leaves), being on the move and finally found exploring all the cities more on the end of ‘exciting’ rather than ‘omg-i am so-overwhelmed.’ once i started to feel these thing, my confidence increased as well. i popped up on stage more frequently and found my own voice to be stronger.
lesson 7: document your adventures
blogging along the way was great but my husband and i would take time on our plane rides to write down all the neat things we do, challenges we faced and organize our photos. some may think i’m an over-sharer on this thing but believe me…we have some stories and we want to remember those. also, how else would i ever remember the texas waffle in lubbock!
this allows you to use one bed as an essential shelf and you can also eat whatever you want on it while keeping your ‘sleeping’ bed pristine. it definitely helped our relationship because it’s not fun to get in a spat over me eating cookies and/or chips in bed.
lesson 9: take time apart
this can be very tricky particularly when you don’t really have any other place to go except the lobby of a hotel vs. hotel room but take it. as in love and as healthy of a relationship that you may be in, everyone needs time apart. we found that even taking 30-60 minutes to just be on our own was huge and helped us not annoy each other as much since we were truly together 24/7.
lesson 10: be strong in who you are and what you are about
this one is so important. people will say things, both positive and negative and you have got to know yourself well enough not to let either side effect you. also, be authentic and genuine because a) it’s way more fun to be yourself and b) people totally know when you aren’t and it’s awkward.
we learned an incredible amount lessons through this experience and thank you to the thousands of people who attended our workshops and the hundreds of volunteers that helped make the events possible! i also have to thank my husband for being not only a dreamer but a do-er and having the patience of 7 people as i learned many of these lessons.
stay tuned for updates soon because we have some fun things up our sleeves!
the new wifestyle: do things that challenge you and be conscious of the transformations that occur when you do.
1) did you attend one of our workshops? if so-what city!
2) do you take a lot of photos to remember events in your life? or maybe what you ate for lunch?
3) what lessons have you learned lately?