The “I’M PREGNANT” Story + Videos of Telling Family!
i know i should have shared this forever and a day ago but after much technological issues, i have finally compiled the videos of us telling our families we are going to have a baby! thank you paula and vivien for asking how i told my husband and keeping this on my radar!
obviously before we could tell our families, we had to find out first ourselves! so here’s the story:
it was actually quite the process. as i shared as part of my decision to have a baby, this was a fingers-crossed-antarctica-baby. after we arrived back from our travels to antarctica, it was time for the waiting game to see if aunt flo would be visiting or if tracking my ovulation really worked.
side note: i got pregnant the first month we tried. i am incredibly grateful for this and also pretty shocked because it seems like it often takes people many months or even years to get birth control out of your system. i heavily attribute this to my mom telling me “we are natural breeders” and to reading “taking charge of your fertility.” thank you to sarah for recommending this book in the comments of this article!
i have been recommending it like crazy to my friends who are interested in having a baby (read: someone close to me who is only 5 weeks pregnant behind me) or even those that don’t want to get pregnant because it’s insanely fascinating and super empowering. i had no idea there are all these signs our bodies give us each month signaling we are fertile. in order to track your fertility this way, you have to be pretty darn comfortable with yourself or at least willing to get comfortable. if seeing the words ‘cervical fluid’ freak you out, you will have a harder time but i definitely attribute tracking my cycle to getting pregnant so quickly. i tracked it three months beforehand with the lens of “no baby” and then knew what to look for when i changed my lens to “okay, let’s do this baby!” read it (and don’t let the size scare you, more than half of the book are appendices about menopause).
okay – back to the story!
even after getting off birth control three months prior, my period has never been late. sometimes it was a little early but never late because we are punctual ladies over here. i took a pregnancy test the day my period was due. my husband and i sat (im)patiently with his phone on the timer, waiting to uncover the test after two minutes. we were really expecting a huge POSITIVE sign but no. it was negative.
i took 5 more pregnancy tests over the course of the next 14 days and let me tell you how frustrating this was. when you google “early signs of pregnancy” they basically align with PMS symptoms (moodiness, sometimes cramping, back pain, breast tenderness, etc). i started getting frustrated by day 10 and had neither a period nor a positive pregnancy test. mostly i wanted to know whether i could be throwing back wine or not.
i even went to the doctor and got a negative blood test a few days before we were leaving to visit our families for christmas. i continued feeling frustrated by knowing something wasn’t quite right but nothing was definitive either. i drank a glass of wine and said to the universe “hey! i’m trying to be responsible here and you’re not helping me out so i’m drinking wine.”
at this point, the negative pregnancy tests were putting on a damper on the excitement of watching the clock together with my husband so i decided to take one more before we boarded our flight that morning to dallas on december 20, 2015. my heart goes out to couples dealing with infertility because a mere two weeks waiting was nothing compared to the sometimes years it can take for others. my husband was still in bed and i groggily peed on the plastic, set it on the counter and then ate some wheat thins (that’s my normal morning routine, minus the peeing on things).
i walked back into the bathroom expecting to say “another negative” but when i unveiled the covered stick, i saw the faintest little vertical line indicating positive. i looked at it for three more long seconds and then bellowed to my half asleep husband “GET. IN. HERE. NOW.”
i shall spare you the tired-eyed photo and share this showered and ready to go one instead:
we ran to target the instant it opened and grabbed two little christmas onesies for his family and for mine. we decided to tell them up by wrapping them up as a gift and saying “we brought you a little something from antarctica.”
we had the 3 hour flight from portland to dallas to let it sink in (it has still barely sunk in for me 4 months later) and then play it cool a few more hours with my in-laws until we told them at dinner. i had my husband run out and pick up another pregnancy test while we were there so i could confirm it again and sure enough, i took those two tests over the next few days and the line got darker and darker. apparently the HCG levels (the hormone indicating you are pregnant and what pregnancy tests read) can differ for a small number of women so that’s what was going on for me. then it doubles basically every day for your first month so the lines become darker on the test.
i am SO happy we captured telling our families on video! we did them all sneakily so excuse the shaking quality.
to be honest, i was feeling a little nervous to tell everyone. i suddenly felt like i was 16 and pregnant and got nervous. it was weird. i think it’s because i worked hard to avoid pregnancy for so long that it was a strange thing to say out loud to my parents (let alone myself!)
i think both of our sister’s had the best reaction – good work ashley and kendal!
stay tuned for wednesday’s post because we found out the sex of our baby and i shall be sharing it with you then! any guesses??