How Small Gestures Make a BIG Impact on Your Relationship
it’s amazing how small gestures make a BIG impact on your relationship, especially with your spouse. like i mention in my e-book (it’s yours for $free.99 ya know), our spouses aren’t mind readers so we need to be vocal about our needs and wants.
at the beginning of the week, we started getting christmas cards (yay!) and we didn’t really have anywhere to put them. we only have a few magnets on our refrigerator that are holding up very important things like my sister’s wedding invitation from june and coupons for tampons. priorities.
i casually said, “oh how i wish we had one of those little card holders we could put on the table to display them. i guess we can rotate them on the fridge with the coupon holder magnet.”
when i came out of our office yesterday, my husband had proudly displayed this with the few cards we’ve received! not only that, but he made it (and don’t ask where the tape measurer is because it may be holding all of this together somehow). hmm how did that ‘coach’ postcard get in there?
the panama post card is from my mom and step dad, where they spent thanksgiving with my grandparents. did you have any idea that is what panama looks like?! i did not.
anyways…this gesture made me feel validated that he does indeed listen to what i say, it showed me he still likes making me smile and as demonstrated from our intense christmas door, he’s really creative.
i wrote most of the above yesterday afternoon and then ran out to get some more boxes to send out our products (more on that in a minute). what i returned home to was a small gesture that had a big impact on me.
if we are buddies on the instagram or facebook…then you already saw this glorious sight but i walked into a clean home with a little christmas card making station all set up!
my jaw literally dropped and i squealed with excitement because i had been saying i couldn’t wait to just relax and spend time on sending out our christmas cards. he again listened to this and instead of just encouraging me to do so, he set this up (with ‘gilmore girls’ queued up) to make me feel extra special.
i asked him how long it took to set all that up and he said about 3-5 minutes. that’s it. 3-5 minutes to make me feel extra special, show he cares and that he was listening. it’s the small gestures that make a big impact on our relationships. we already had everything, so all it cost was 3-5 minutes of his time.
i am still smiling this morning about it and get warm fuzzies that i have such a thoughtful husband. and so you don’t think this is all one sided here folks, while i was out getting more shipping supplies, i bought my husband new dry-erase board markers with a fancy little eraser! fine. his wins but mine still counts!
the point in sharing this is that i was also thinking about him while i was out and about. if you know my husband, you know he loves writing on whiteboards (he even has a video on youtube about how to set yours up). my small gesture of getting him brand-spanking-new markers was a little something that made him feel special and showed him i was thinking of him too.
what can you spend 3-5 minutes doing today to show your partner/spouse/sweetie pie/child/parent/etc. you are thinking of them while making them feel special? consider doing this and see the reaction because it’s worth it.
1) what thing are thinking about doing for someone you care about today?
2) do you send out holiday cards?
3) are you signed up for my newsletter because those people that are get a special something from me in the mail (yes even those in australia, canada, china, etc) 🙂
ps. interested in public speaking? it’s the last day to get our holiday special which includes my hubs best-selling book, a DVD and then OUR CD about how i coached him to win the world championship of public speaking! yes, we went into a recording studio together and i totally pretended i was a pop-star.
$5 of your purchase goes to a grant we created to pay for 18-25 year olds to join toastmasters for a year who can’t afford it and we will also cover shipping in the US of A! happy friday!