How Differently Sisters Can Experience Pregnancy…
it’s an exciting time in our family as both my sister and i are pregnant! these will be the first grandkids for all families involved so it’s extra exciting! she has deemed us “sister moms” which makes me laugh every time. kendal is about 5 week behind me so it’s been fun to have a close companion to share in the highs and lows of pregnancy. though we share much of the same genetic make-up as sisters, we could not be having starkly different pregnancies.
her and her husband are waiting to find out the baby’s sex until it’s born but i would put a whole lot of money on a bet that she’s brewing a baby boy! we are having a little girl (#queenNOTprincess) so i think these are pretty good clues about what’s going on in there.
when we were together a few weeks ago in kansas city, we had some good laughs about how different it has been for the both of us!
me: as i mentioned in my recap of my first trimester, my husband was forbidden to cook pretty much anything and everything for a solid month. i even found almonds offensive (what?!) i could basically only stomach eating plain, white carbs (i.e. pasta and bagels) and pineapple.
sister: a few times her husband was cooking ground beef, it smelled gross so she left the kitchen and was fine. then she still ate it.
me: horrible (see above) and here are tips that helped me survive it!
sister: she felt nauseous around 3 times.
me: i am highly influenced by people talking about food or seeing advertising for food, especially sugar. i have been craving spicy, salty, sweet and am still especially fixated on almond-flavored things (perhaps making up for being mean to them in the first trimester?) oh and give me all the graham crackers and teddy grahams!
sister: one time she craved a root beer float.
place of delivery
me: i am going with a midwife at a birthing center
sister: delivering at a hospital and with the same doctor that delivered her husband!
me: i could barely move from my bed to the couch during the first trimester i was so nauseous. when i got medication for the nausea, my blood pressure was so off that any time i attempted to workout, i would immediately get dizzy and have to stop. walking for about 10 minutes was my limit. thankfully things leveled out about a month ago for me and exercise has been more frequent.
sister: the amount of snapchats i received from her still doing p90x was impressive – all through her first trimester even!
me: i have shared the issues around my skin previously and it’s still a big issue for me. damn you pregnancy pimples – now appearing everywhere.
sister: glowingly and pretty much flawless.
me: i totally packed on the pounds in the first trimester because i was only eating carbs and no longer exercising 4-5 a week. i have had to exclusively wear maternity pants from around week 11.
sister: thanks to her feeling good, eating healthy and exercising – she is right on track for appropriate weight gain. even at week 19 she said, “yeah, i still wear all my normal pants but usually have to unbutton them by the end of the day!”
me: our baby would literally not be still and frustrated the technician who was trying to capture images (hence why the best one we got was this one on her faaaace)!
sister: her baby did squirm a lot during their second ultrasound but generally speaking, each time she leaves with beautiful and adorable pictures of their baby – right side up!
i asked her what types of crazy mood swings she has had thanks to nutty pregnancy hormones. here was our real conversation (and my personal favorite contrast):
me: “so have you had any crazy mood swings? like, one time i completely freaked out and lost it when ravery suggested that a family member come visit our new baby after she’s born. or like sometimes i just get so irritated by everything he does i cannot be in the same room as him otherwise i’ll be mean. or i get really
demanding passionate about the movie we must watch. what have you done?”
sister: “well, i haven’t really been experiencing bursts of rage or anything. actually, i have been feeling like crazy bursts of joy randomly!”
me: “get. out. of. here.”
this experience has demonstrated that truly every woman experiences pregnancy differently! if one of us had to have the more intense symptoms, i am grateful it is me because my job allows for frequent breaks and working from bed – while she is a fierce and dedicated school social worker!
time shall tell if out pops a little boy or girl for her and in the meantime, we will keep laughing about how different our pregnancies are!