One of the Most Transformative Years of My Life! No, Seriously.
tomorrow i turn 27 years old. that sentence blows my mind. 27 sounds like an adult and more often than not i don’t really feel like an adult. i am not one of those ladies who freaks out about getting old (i’ve had gray hair since i was 20) but what i do freak out about is how quickly time passes and i haven’t experienced that until this past year. in reflecting over why this past year has been so wild and time passing so quickly…i’ve discovered that it has been a transformative year for me…BIG time. like bigger than those transformer cars and all that.
1) last year at this time my mom came to visit me because my husband had a speaking engagement in Vegas so we had a super fun girls weekend to celebrate my birthday! it made me better appreciate and i value the relationship i have with her and her unwavering support. that weekend helped to transform our relationship from solely mother/daughter to also friends (those dang cross-stitch pillows always get it right)!
2) when my husband got back in town, he surprised me with spending the following weekend in a treehouse! it was hands down the best place i’ve stayed. ever. this transformed me by realizing that truly any dream or idea someone has can become a reality. treehouse hotels? yes please. this has also been added to our goal list of building a fancy tree house someday.
3) 10 days after this, we ventured for work (and obviously some play) to The Bahamas! it was glorious. this trip transformed me by realizing i often take for granted my own beautiful surroundings, like some of the folks we met in the Bahamas did with that crystal clear water. i talked about it a lot and they were just like “yeah. it’s water. and it’s a cold right now so what’s your point?!” ps. cold there is like 85 degrees.
4) 3 weeks after this trip we changed weather and ventured to our first trip to Alaska! we had one of the most fun times with old and new friends while exploring true wildlife. the trip transformed me because it was the first time in a long time where i laughed consistently and quickly bonded with new friends (shoutout to Tirrell and Jess!).
(i actually do own other sweaters but this one below is an obvious favorite).
5) about a week after this, my husband quit his non-profit job to work full-time on our business. about a month later i quit mine too to take the plunge into full-time entrepreneurship! one of my girls at the empowerment groups i was running made this for me. i totally cried when i got home.
the right decision doesn’t always mean it’s easy. moving out of the social work world and into the owning my own business has been incredibly transformative and is still transforming me.
5) speaking of which… i started a business with my husband- well 2 technically. this was transformative in learning how to function as life partners as well as business partners. i am still learning to balance this but am getting better about making business less personal.
6) i was the leadership seminar chair person for HOBY Oregon and the seminar came to fruition the last weekend in May! this was one of the biggest times i’ve blown my own damn mind. i went from a first year volunteer the year before to organizing and orchestrating a 3 day seminar for sophomores all over Oregon.
there were up and there were downs along the way but the seminar turned out way better than expected thanks to my amazing planning team (shout out to Beki, Jacquie , Claire and Matt). lives were changed forever that weekend, mine included. i very tangibly learned that i am capable of so much more than i ever thought myself possible (not a brag just a very true and intense revelation).
7) the day after this seminar ended…we moved from Portland, OR to Houston, TX. i actually remember very little about the moving process because i was so overwhelmed i think my subconscious just erased a lot of that for me. whew. we took the long way and ventured through the Yellowstone, Grand Tetons and Colorado!
oh! and i saw a MOOSE in Moose, Wyoming.
8) i got to know my in-laws a whole lot better by our short time in Texas. this was transformative because now i truly feel like i know them as individuals, not just “oh those are my in-laws.” they are fantastic people who have helped us so much and i am so grateful for our time with them.
9) living in texas, even if only for a short while was transformative. people there were way friendlier than i’ve encountered in other places and it caused me to be less guarded when engaging in the world. it showed me how important it is for me to live in a community where i can walk places and also that i’m not cut out for humidity- whew! i also had some preconceived notions about how close-minded people would be but was pleasantly surprised (though i have some stories and believe it or not…women were not made to serve men!). i am thankful for my time there.
10) i scheduled a trip less than 16 hours before my flight took off! this was HUGE for me and my annoying sidekick-anxiety. my grandparents helped me get to Kansas City, MO to surprise my uncle and soon-to-be aunt for their engagement party! my mom was also there and this was the first time i’ve surprised someone by just appearing! it was spectacular.
11) i talked openly about my anxiety here. this was incredibly scary and oddly freeing at the same time. i have also had a lot of people reach out to me for support and letting me know i’m not alone. there is power in being true about who you are, what your struggles are and that you aren’t facing them alone.
12) i visited Moscow and St. Petersburg, Russia! there was so much history there, it was sometimes overwhelming to take in. it was transformative to travel to a place that has now openly outlaws and punishes ‘being gay and supporting gay rights.’ while the USA is far from perfect, it did make me appreciate the progress we are making as a country. while there, we focused on the fact that not all Russians agree with these laws and enjoy our time together exploring.
13) 6 days after we returned from Russian, my husband and i embarked on a 50 city North American Tour! i don’t need to recap all that business but you can find stories about it under the ‘travel’ section of ‘blog’ up above. my biggest transformation from this was a) with hard work, planning and trusting yourself-you can do anything. i’m serious. i didn’t truly believe that before and b) what you are stressed about right now, will 99% of the time work out and you will be fine. i’m serious on this too.
i am fully enjoying my last day of being 26 by eating cookies for breakfast and flying to Vancouver, British Columbia in just a few hours with my husband to do workshops there! this will be my first birthday outside of the United States! i know that my 27th year on this earth will be overwhelming fantastic, have it’s challenging times but most importantly- i am entering this year with the realization that most of how my next year looks is up to me.
the new wifestyle: create the life you want to be living, don’t just go through the motions simply because it’s easier.
1) what has been one of your more transformative years?
2) any traditions you do for celebrating your birthday?
3) tell me about when you were 27 or what you want your 27th year to look like if you are younger than moi!