Non-Traditional Wedding Ideas (Part 2)
Hooray! Time for round 2 of ways you can incorporate a few less traditional ideas into making your wedding day more about you and your love and less about expectations of how it ‘should’ be. Be sure to check out Part 1 in case you missed it because heaven forbid you miss out on a couple’s bath!
6) Decide who you want to walk you down the aisle, if anyone
Of course there is nothing wrong with the tradition of your father walking you down the aisle (unless of course he still refers to you as property is giving you away along with 5 sheep…then call me and I will come rescue you). It brought me immense joy in asking my mom if she would stand on the other side of me and walk me down the aisle along with my dad. My parents divorced when I was 6 so it was a little strange to see a photo of the 3 of us in it since that hadn’t happened since I was in pigtails but I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. Both of them helped raise me to be the person I am today, sacrificing their own wants for mine and I wanted to be sure to honor both of them.
If your parents have passed on or perhaps you don’t have the best relationship with them, choose someone else who is important to you. Or you could even walk your own badass self down that aisle!
Sure, you can go sample delicious cakes beforehand but no longer do you have to serve everyone cake if you don’t want to! How about pie, or a table full of candy? My husband loves marble cake so we had a little cake made just for the two of us (and no we didn’t smash it into each other’s faces) but we did do this which might be worse:
I love brownies (pictured faintly in the background) so we served milk and brownies for the guests! This also turned out to be cheaper and people loved it so if your favorite dessert isn’t cake, spice it up and get what you like. A friend of mine Jennifer loves cake pops so they had those! If you have donuts at your wedding, please invite me.
8) Hand your bouquet off or save it
I had a friend who got married and she did the ‘anniversary dance’ where you call all the married guests on the dance floor and it narrows down until the longest-married couple is left. This turned out to be her grandparents so she presented her bouquet to them-adorable! I saved mine and admired it all weekend but if I would have known about this, I may of handed it to my grandparents because I think that’s super sweet! I didn’t toss mine and kept it on display for the rest of the weekend (we got married on Friday of Labor Day weekend so it was really a wedding weekend).
9) If you don’t want to wear white, pick another color dress!
More and more brides are choosing to wear other colors than white or ivory. This is our special day and we should feel confident, beautiful and special and the color and style of the dress should reflect you. I opted for the traditional route and found a dress in ivory, which I loved even before I noticed the name of it was “Avery” (I can’t make this up. Come over and I’ll show you the tag).
My friend Heather rocked an awesome dress for her wedding day-thanks for letting me share!
10) Be Conscious of your Pronouncement
When I hear “I now pronounce you man and wife” I cringe. It seems unbalanced to me to call one person out by gender and the other by an identity. Be conscious of how you want to be addressed and ask your officiant, pastor, or preacher, to do so. How about “I now pronounce you husband and wife” or “I now pronounce you partners for life” (we opted for this one) or “I now pronounce you people who cannot watch your favorite TV show without the other one present.” You get the gist.
Also, pinterest didn’t exist when we got married about 4 years ago and after this post, it’s making me want to go crazy on there so let’s be friends!
However you choose to celebrate the union and commitment with your love, I wish you a lifetime of fun, happiness and a reminder to spend ten-fold the amount of energy you did on your wedding on your marriage. Celebrate love!
1) What was your favorite part about your wedding day or what are you most looking forward to (besides marrying the person you want to spend forever with)?
2) Where is your wedding dress now?
3) Favorite cake or dessert….go! (You can tell I’m really into donuts currently)