The Best Thing A Husband Can Do for His Pregnant Wife
you want to know the best thing a husband can do for his pregnant wife?
you may initially think it could be going out at 11pm for her favorite ice cream or rubbing her feet because they look like fiona shrek’s feet. maybe you think it’s putting together the crib or going to the grocery store so she doesn’t have to.
the very best thing my husband has done for me during my pregnancy has been to thank me. i realize that being pregnant is a privilege not afforded to every woman (nor does every woman desire it) and yes men never get to experience but it has been so helpful to hear from him “thank you for carrying our child” throughout my pregnancy.
i had a rough first trimester (and now good days and rough days) so when my husband acknowledges the changes happening to my body on a physical, emotional and mental level – it has a profound effect on my attitude and outlook. i appreciate that he runs out to fulfill my intense craving of cran-raspberry juice or will get me my water 4 times a day when i leave just out of arms reach but this is more.
when he thanks me for carrying his child, it makes my changing and often difficult status of ‘pregnant’ feel better acknowledged. it shows me that he understands and appreciates all that i do to ensure this baby stays healthy and grows as she should (thankfully i’m not responsible for initiating earlobe and elbow creation).
it may seem odd to some to hear that i want to be ‘thanked’ for carrying our child but it’s no small effort and not something either of us take lightly. i am currently the one experiencing the highs and lows of pregnancy and then i will also be the one to continue to sustain her nutrition-wise after she is born, again with my body. yes, she is our daughter and i am beyond excited to parent with my husband but it absolutely effects the woman in much deeper ways, especially initially.
so husbands and partners, i would highly encourage you to of course support your pregnant spouse in all the ways you can but also thank her for doing the work to bring your baby into the world!
Claire
August 3, 2016 at 7:57 am
Ah being acknowledged and thanked is so validating. You have a special man by your side 🙂
P.S. Laughed out loud with the “(thankfully i’m not responsible for initiating earlobe and elbow creation)” LOL Thank goodness!!!
chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:21 am
indeed i do have a special man by my side and i don’t take that lightly 🙂 and YES! i feel my job is complete if i can get an out loud laugh so thank you claire 🙂
Elyse
August 3, 2016 at 8:30 am
Acknowledgement goes a long way, doesn’t it, Chelsea? Love, that your husband thanks you!
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chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:20 am
oh my goodness it goes SO far, elyse! i didn’t realize how much i needed to hear it and specifically from him so i’m glad he’s great at communicating 🙂
Audrey
August 3, 2016 at 10:02 am
Aww, I’m glad Mr. WS is feeding your momma needs! You guys are great at communicating and using your words- Baby WS will never struggle with feeling loved and appreciate by you guys!
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chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:19 am
he totally is and i appreciate it beyond words! thanks for your kind comment too audrey! that is our goal – as long as she’s healthy and feels loved then we consider it a win!
Lauren @ Oh Hey! I Like That!
August 3, 2016 at 10:34 am
Love love love this!
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chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:16 am
yay glad you did lauren! it’s truly been so helpful to hear!
Paula Howley
August 3, 2016 at 12:33 pm
NO brainer.
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chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:15 am
you would think so though i’ve heard from various other couples that the husband sort just ‘expects’ her to deal with it!
Vivien
August 3, 2016 at 1:12 pm
Right on!
chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:15 am
it’s been making a world of a difference!
Lisa
August 4, 2016 at 12:05 am
I really, really love this! It’s always nice to be acknowledged for doing some difficult work, because dangit, pregnancy is no walk in the park!
chelsea
August 4, 2016 at 6:15 am
totally agree lisa that it’s important to be acknowledged and i need to hear it frequently with pregnancy!