Being BOLD is Scary but Rewarding (sometimes with chocolate)
yesterday was a day of boldness for me! remember how my word is BOLD for 2014, well i stepped up and did something i wouldn’t normally do. let’s first get the whole story here. my husband has been working incredibly hard to earn his DTM, or Distinguished Toastmaster, which is the highest award Toastmasters gives for both communication and leadership advancement. it’s a pretty big deal and i’m so proud of him!
last night he met the last part of the requirements by putting on a workshop “the art of evaluation.” as we were training for the World Championship of Public Speaking, we received over 1,000 evaluations! initially, all this meant to me is that i got to pick out some snacks for the people spending the evening with us. my favorite part of any store is the clearance area…50% off plates and napkins woohoo! don’t worry, i got some apples, triscuits (otherwise i would eat all the wheat thins), and other treats in addition to the mini-candy bars (sidenote…do people really like milky way bars or 3 musketeers? not for me).
about 4 hours before we left for the workshop, the ‘test speaker’ fell through (this is someone who gives a speech and then everyone evaluates them based on the information Ravery provided). i was laying in bed because someone insisted on still kissing me even though he was sick and now i have the crud.
anyways, he walked in and between my sneezes said “do you want to be the test speaker tonight?” initially i said “um. does it look like i want to do anything tonight except lay here and complain?” then it happened-i remembered that i am to be BOLD this year, so i said “fine. okay. yes. wait. okay. yes, i’ll do it.” and popped some DayQuil.
i decided to speak about the new wifestyle, in terms of the book i’m writing in addition to how my goal is to help modern wives have an equal voice in their marriages.
it wasn’t the best speech but it wasn’t the worst either. i spoke for a full 7 minutes and 30 seconds and didn’t even pass out. the evaluations i got from it was that my message was powerful (!), made people laugh but i need to slow down to allow my words to sink in. it’s true that when you are speaking about something from the heart, your anxiety decreases and you feel empowered.
i am used to being the coach and helping people find their confidence, their message and presenting powerful messages but now it’s time to get more comfortable with myself on stage. i am glad i decided to change my initial reaction and thought process and make a bold move.
when we got out to the car afterwards, my husband looked at me with the widest grin on his face and said “this is probably one of proudest moments i’ve witnessed with you. you are bold, you are beautiful and i want to get you a cupcake!” so he did. it was hot chocolate flavored and i ate 2 bites before i realized it was pointless because i couldn’t really taste it.
he went on to say how impressed he was with my mindset change and he knew i wouldn’t have done that a year ago. while his kind words meant a great deal to me (and totally made me tear up), more importantly…i was proud of myself. i know for a fact that i wouldn’t have done this a year ago because i’ve been asked multiple times and always found excuses. while i know i will still have excuses from time to time, and not always making the bold move, last night my new and improved self won.
the new wifestyle: if you want to change aspects of who you are, make the commitment, find people to hold you accountable and do it.
1) last time you made yourself proud?
2) there’s still time for a word of the year….any takers?
3) would you really choose a milky way/3 musketeers of a twix/snickers?