Perfect Advice From A Couple Married for 60 Years!
how many couples do you know that have celebrated their 60th anniversary? i happen to know only one – my very own nana & papa!
their official anniversary is in a few months but they were smart and celebrated with an anniversary party while the family was in town over christmas!
here are the grandkids (all the ladies in the photo) along with our significant others!
the anniversary party was held at the very hip roosevelt hotel in downtown kansas city, missouri. as i watched the room continue to fill with people arriving to celebrate my grandparents’ love (some of whom drove hours to get there and with an impending ice storm slated to start any minute) i couldn’t help but feel proud.
i teared up multiple times that night hearing stories from friends they have had since 5th grade and others they met after moving to KCMO 5 years ago. there was a theme in what i heard: every person told me how kind, genuine and generous my grandparents are with most following up with “oh and they are just so fun!”
they meet when they were teenagers, after my grandpa and his buddy visited the ice cream shop where my grandma and her best friend worked! is that not the cutest?!
my grandparents have served as superb role models for my own marriage. my husband and i talk about how we appreciate their honesty that sometimes it gets hard but at the end of the day, there is still no one else they would rather travel the world with or drink coffee together every morning.
my mom gave a beautiful toast, throwing in some sage advice about what they told us when we got married: to always rent separate kayaks (which we put to the test last year)!
my grandpa then spoke and turned me into a complete blubbering granddaughter.
he said that 60 years might not sound like a lot, to which everyone was like “oh yes it does!” with the same firmness buddy the elf uses to respond when his boss says there is no singing at the north pole, “oh yes there is!”
he went on to say that they have shared 720 full moons together, 3,120 friday night dates, 21,900 cups of coffee and when they had two cups of coffee that would be over 40,000 cups of coffee and that’s a big deal! i am tearing up again, good work pops.
at one point during the night, someone asked if they had any more wedding photos to share from 60 years ago to which my husband and i heard my grandma say “oh darn! i wish i would have brought them!” my husband, being the sweet man he is, snuck off (taking my brother-in-law with him) to drive the 30+ minutes away to their home and get their wedding album! after my grandpa teased him about breaking and entering, they couldn’t stop smiling and looking at the album with their friends! swoon.
it was of course a happy celebration but also moments of sadness as my grandpa looked at his side of the wedding party and said all of his groomsmen had passed away. although one of my grandma’s bridesmaid also passed away, two were able to be there and also my cousin debra, who was the littlest flower girl!
when i asked nana what she has loved the most about her 60 year marriage, she said the friendship she continues to enjoy with my grandpa – her best friend.
when the same question was asked to papa, he exclaimed “her cooking, of course!” ha! typical but i can personally attest that my grandma is an incredible cook.
they are so loved by every person they encounter and also do many acts of service in their community, one of which is working weekly with the homeless shelter. i am so grateful to have them as my very own grandparents.
over our time together this past christmas, i asked them what makes their marriage work and both of them agreed that communication plays a vital role in a healthy and happy marriage. they also said how important they have found it to have their own interests and hobbies separate from one another. this gives you stories and experiences to come back home and share with each other.
so that perfect advice from a couple married for 60 years? get ready for it.
when i asked them what advice they have to other married couples after 60 years of marriage, my grandma said “each relationship and marriage is different. i don’t think i could give any advice because people have to do what works best for them!”
i though that was a beautiful response because it gives permission for all of us to not do what is ‘expected’ of us but rather what works for us and our marriage. she is obviously the original new wifestyle! cheers to you both and cheers to more anniversaries celebrated together!