3 Reasons to Take A Babymoon
i personally don’t really need a reason to travel because it’s something i love and value anyway but why the heck not throw another reason to take a trip for a babymoon! what exactly is a “babymoon?” it’s basically your last hurrah as just the two of you before you add a tiny and demanding human to the mix.
as mentioned previously, we were planning to go to mexico for our friends’ wedding and then extend it to our babymoon but then the zika virus happened and ruined everything. in fact, we even had to turn down a speaking opportunity in puerto rico because of it <insert scowl here>.
my husband and i both love the beach because he can scuba dive and i can sit on said beach for hours and watch the waves roll in and out. however, most of the beaches around the world are becoming infested with the zika spread but not hawaii! yes, cases have been documented there and in almost every state in the USA but all from people who contracted it outside of the country.
before we launch into why to go on a babymoon, i must share some more about our own trip because it’s definitely one for the memory books. we were guests of the beautiful Aulani, a Disney Resort and Spa for a portion of our babymoon and it was fantastic! it was built in 2011 and while it boasts over 350 rooms and suites, it also has 19 grand villas which can comfortably sleep up to 12 guests so bring the whole family!
it is located on the island of oahu and is right on the beach, which is always my #1 thing i look for in a hotel. why waste time getting to the beach when you can just walk from your room right there?!
the fantastic duo janelle and noriko from Disney took us on a personal tour of the resort and oh my goodness, all the fun things they shared with us were incredible! i figured i would look go with the “oh i just walked off the beach” look to meet with them (who let me be an adult?!)
one of my favorite things about this resort is that they have done a fantastic job focusing on hawaiian culture first and then Disney comes second. they worked with the local native hawaiian community to embrace different aspects of traditions, cultures and stores and then used subtle Disney things to enhance the resort. i really appreciated that. Aulani means “messenger of the chief,” which is what they strive to do here by spreading the history and culture of hawaii.
we learned that the colorful photos behind the front desk were taken by children from hawaii when asked what hawaii means to them. that gave me all fuzzies!
another thing our great tour guides shared with us was the fact that there are so many hidden mickeys throughout the hotel! of course the towel is obviously mickey but check out the bedspread! we found other mickeys tastefully done in rugs, the wallpaper, paintings, in stone and so much more!
another perk i liked about Aulani was that they had a few different 18+ pools, which i wasn’t expecting! they weren’t super far away from the kids area but it was still nice to have a quieter place to splash your spouse instead of kids splashing you.
i took advantage of the lazy river because that’s about the maximum threshold of any ‘ride’ i would ever do. it was pretty perfect.
so if you need more a reason to take a trip, here are 3 reasons to take a babymoon!
1) to spend time away from others
yes we love our families, yes we love our friends and yes we hopefully love most of our coworkers but it is so nice to get away from everyone and spend time just the two of you. adding a baby to the mix creates a ton of excitement not only for the parents-to-be but also extended family and friends, which is so great! at the same point, sometimes it can feel overwhelming to constantly be talking about the baby and the pregnancy so it’s nice to spend some time away from others during your babymoon.
we told our friends and family we weren’t answering phone calls or text. we put our autoresponders on our emails. we turned our phones on airplane mode most of the day. when was the last time you did this (probably on your love day)? it’s incredibly freeing not to constantly be checking our little pocket computers in anticipation that someone could ‘need’ us (ie. tagging us in cute animal videos).
2) to focus on each other
one of the things that made me nervous (and still does) about having a child is how much i know our relationship and marriage is going to change once this baby pops out. we are both dedicated to doing our very best to keep each other as the priority but we are also aware that this will look different, especially those first few months.
a babymoon is a great time to have conversations about these changes. i am in the midst of putting together a great list of questions we asked each other while on our babymoon to address fears, excitement, memories and dreams for the future.
Aulani has a great restaurant called “ama ama” and though it’s quite spendy, i think we were really paying for the view:
plus it was also my husband’s birthday and besides my other gift to him, everyone should have a special meal on their day of birth! he had some fancy seafood platter for dinner, followed up by this dessert platter!
this babymoon allowed us to express the full range of emotions we are feeling about this next chapter in our lives and for that i am quite grateful. too bad we can’t always just head to the beach to express such things!
3) to focus on the baby
i was able to explore Laniwai Spa while at Aulani and it was the epitome of relaxation. when you sign up for any type of treatment or massage here, you get to spend an hour beforehand in the hydrotherapy garden, which was incredibly relaxing. you couldn’t hear any of the kids playing and they paid such attention to detail, it was impressive.
i think one of my very favorite parts of the spa experience was that they have you close your eyes and select a stone from a gorgeous wooden bowl. on one side is the english word and other side is the hawaiian word for something positive for you to focus your energy on while in the gardens and your massage.
mine was “pono” or “balance” which is honestly one of my favorite words and something i strive for feeling daily. thanks universe!
you hold it tight while they explain the process and show you the rooms and then they have you toss it into the reflection pool. in hawaiian culture, they believe what you take from the earth should be returned. how gorgeous is that pool?!
they had multiple hot tubs and even a cold one if you need a wake me up! since i’m pregnant, i stuck my feet in for a few minutes as to not cook my baby.
one of my favorite features was the area of the different rain falls! if you were following me on snapchat while i was there you saw the one i deemed the ‘texas rainfall’ because it basically just poured on you.
i experienced my first prenatal massage and i’m leaning towards not actually registering for any baby goods and just asking people to fund my need of prenatal massages. i truly do not think i have felt that relaxed in…ever.
i was feeling a little anxiety (because you know me) about how this would exactly work since i can’t lay on my stomach and can’t be on my back very long. obviously they know what they are doing – the bed adjusted and they had a body pillow for me to snuggle with so as to not lay on my stomach.
the kind masseuse even offered me four different scents should the oil she was planning on using wasn’t satisfactory to my high-needs nose! our little one was moving all around because i so relaxed and she was definitely loving it.
another perk of Aulani is that there are other pregnant ladies or women who just gave birth so they don’t bat an eye when you strut by with a belly full of baby! i got a lot of stares on other beaches.
we are so happy we chose oahu, hawaii as our babymoon destination! yes my ankles swelled on the long travel back home but sunshine, the ocean and quality time between me and my husband was well worth it! if you are planning to travel to hawaii, they have a fantastic visitor’s bureau and resources for all of the islands (GoHawaii.com). they gave us so many ideas of fun things to see and do with the perfect balance of romance and adventure – just what we were looking for.
on our last morning there, we hiked to the top of diamond head per recommendation and it was truly spectacular!
prioritizing making a babymoon happen for us was important and we are both so glad we did it! as if you need another reason to take a vacation, just put ‘take a babymoon’ on your list and make it happen.
if you are a parent, did you take a babymoon? if you aren’t yet a parent or pregnant, is this something you plan on doing and where do you want to go?
FOLLOW UP – QUESTIONS TO ASK ON YOUR BABYMOON!